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People like to think that the opposite of fear is courage, when in fact the opposite of fear is faith. When you have faith to overcome your fears, you realize you had courage all along.” – Unknown

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DON’T JUDGE ME! (Part 1)

DON’T JUDGE ME!
(Part 1)

It’s easy to criticize me, you can say all you want, I don’t really mind but before you judge me please read my story:

I was born about two decades ago to a wonderful family though not rich but we are satisfied. We don’t have more than enough but we were always okay. I’m one of those kids they call “Covenant children”, my mother told me she specifically asked of a girl child from the Lord after having three boys. She wanted a female child and so she prayed and the Lord answered, which explains the reason why she named me “Ebunoluwa” (God’s gift).

My childhood was not so much fun as I was always alone. My brothers had a way of making me feel so different and my mother was a busy woman so she didn’t really have a luxury of time to teach me what it really means to be a girl child. I learnt a lot of things by listening to people and watching movies, please don’t blame my mother I totally understand that she had to work, since my father does not really care about the responsibilities of the home once he pays our school fees and after giving us pocket money he feels that is all, so my mother had to work so hard so that we could be properly fed.

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I had problem with my self-esteem, since my brothers made me feel different and inadequate, I felt everybody saw me that way. I am sanguine no doubt, in fact I am very funny but deep down I was hurting, thing is I was not feeling loved!

NOTE: To all parents and parents to be, it’s not a sin to tell your kids how much you love them and how much they mean to you, it makes them feel special. Kids should be raised with love.

I wanted people to love me, I wanted to be accepted so I resolved to lying about so many things. Often times, I would fabricate stories and make you feel pity for me. This worked for me but it was just for a while, friends I made through such means never lasted. Each time somebody walked out of my life I felt so bad, I would just go home and wet my pillow as usual.

NOTE: Don’t force friendship, work on yourself if you are a better person you would attract better people

Growing up with my brothers I was so used to being around men. I was the kind of girl who would tell you “I can’t make a girl my best friend they can’t be trusted” (as if I myself could be trusted). I had a lot of male friends and since I was used to them most of them saw me as another guy. The painful part, is that the minute I start having crush on a guy, he friend zones me and this was getting tiring.

I forgot to tell you; I love adventures and I enjoyed trying something different. I had my first boyfriend in my final lap in high school. I had a lot of boys who wanted to go out with me but I saw dating as an ungodly thing. We were warned in church not to have boyfriends but this guy was different. Peter gave me the attention no other guy had ever given me before. Though we were in the same class, he treated me like a queen. He would send me messages and would tell me that without me he cannot exist.

NOTE: Ladies don’t ever fall for that lie, “without you I cannot exist”, he has been existing before he met you so don’t ever think your absence will kill him.

I was so innocent and naïve I actually fell for that and I decided to give it a try, the love was so hot and I longed to hear his voice and to see his face in school everyday , Peter meant the whole world to me until one day…..
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To be continued…………………….

By Onome Omodara Olubunmi

Jettison the Box

Jettison the Box

A group of four friends were discussing, and it all seem to revolve round insufficient salary. They all went on and on about how inhumane the company is and how insensitive the company has been to their situations. All of a sudden one of them, just kept quiet and kept staring at the most senior of the group. The most senior became curious, “why are you staring at me?”, then she answered, “you earn like three times our salary and you are still complaining, What else do you want?”. Then the most senior replied, “it is still not enough… 🙈”

In the same organisation that our four friends are, are also people who are on that same salary and yet are living very fine. People on similar salary scale who have their own houses and a very comfortable life style. These are sets of people who have chosen to think out side box, or better put jettison the box and explore other options of income generation. If you think it is impossible, you are probably using the wrong tools or the wrong approach. Nothing is impossible for people who are ready to think outside the box.

My question now is, how much is really enough? How much will you earn that will make you not complain about your job or working condition? In my few years at Speaking and Writing, I have come across many people and most of them, I can say, are not satisfied with their jobs for reasons such as salaries, working condition, boredom, lack of growth and work schedule. The truth I have learned therefrom is that most paid jobs are not satisfying. No matter how much you are paid, the likelihood that it won’t be enough is 95%. At first, say the first 6months, you may be satisfied but after that you will realize you need more; more money, more time, more respect etc. At that point, you become limited, boxed by conditions and responsibilities, and to break free you will need to think outside this box.

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Thinking outside the box
The first way people invite limitation into their life is by having one source of income. No matter what that source of income is it can never be sufficient to cater for all their needs. You need to find a way to open another source of income. It could be in business, crafts, services or networking… the bottom line is that you access another way of making money. The Jordan Rule suggests that the preferred number is 4 (four), at the point you are above poverty.

Try new things, boredom also makes one feel inadequate. When you try new things, you will meet new people with different views of life, there by making you see old things in a whole new way. People who do not complain about there problems often see their limitation from a whole new angle. I know of a friend who see every challenge he faces as an opportunity, he will say if I am facing this then many people are facing it too, so let me find a solution to it, then sell that solution to others. This friend is very comfortable now because he sells solutions to common problems.

Shift your focus from what your problems are to the solutions you desire. Often times many problem just require one solution and if you ask the right questions with the desired solution in mind, you will find out the problems aren’t has daunting as you thought. Albert Einstein once remarked, “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the answer, I would spend the first 55 minutes figuring out the proper questions to ask. For if I knew the proper questions, I could solve the problem in less than 5 minutes.”

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Don’t be too up tight about not making mistakes. Discovery as shown us that most inventions are product of mistakes and trial by errors. Trying to be safe will only leave you in that supposed comfort zone, which gives you cause to complain every now and then. Yes, you might lose some time, money, friends, possessions but you will also gain something and that is a better way to do it next time. Thomas A. Edison once said “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” and I’m the end he found one that worked. It took him ten thousand attempts to finally get out of the box.

Seek motivation from all avenues. One of the boxes confining most people is lack of motivation. A friend once told me, she is not motivated to do anything. As much as self motivation goes a long way, one most also round oneself with friends that have the thirst for achievements, friends who are also motivated to be successful and change the course of history. Read books, articles and learn about people who have moved from nothing to something. All these would give you ideas, widen your horizon and make you think beyond your current limitations.

I implore you to set aside your limitations today, see beyond your current constraints, keep your focus on where you want to be and do a reverse trace that is rather than trace from your problems to your desired solution, reverse the trend and trace from your desired solution to your problems. You will see things in a whole new way and your life will have a whole new meaning.

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In My Life Nothing is Impossible; The Zidane’s Story

In My Life Nothing is Impossible; The Zidane’s Story

Even if you dream about it, hear about it, see it , want to do it, you tell yourself that it’s impossible, that’s why in my life nothing is impossible.
“Zinedine Zidane” About scoring in a World Cup final

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This motivational slogan “in my life nothing is impossible” came to me some years ago, back then when OGBC (Ogun State Broadcasting Corporation), was a must listen to. I recall it was an interview on Brilla Sports by Larry Izamoje (not sure whether it was a live or rebroadcast) which featured a World Cup winner, the young Zinadine Zidane. The interview gave birth to my most motivating slogan till today, each time I feel down or not sure, I repeat the slogan and I just get comfy again.

Here are bits and pieces from the interview, I hope it impacts on you as much as it does to me…

Back in France 1998 before the final of the World Cup, Zidane recalled a discussion he had with Emmanuel Petit, the morning of the final match against Brazil. Zidane said, “Emmanuel called me and told me he had a dream that we defeated Brazil, 3 goals to nothing”.I bursted into laughter and I told him, he should stop kidding around because that can never happen!  Then he continued, he said “you scored two of the goals but wasn’t sure who scored the third”, Now I couldn’t control my laughter. I remembered telling him that was impossible; with the likes of Ronaldo De lima in front , Cafu and Carlos at back and TAFFAREL in goal and captain Dunga, that was just not possible. We laughed it off and went for the light walkout.

We were well aware of the task ahead of us, in what will be a very difficult match but which we all dreamed of playing. When we filed out, I stood close to Emmanuel, a part of me wanted to believe that dreams do come true but at the same time I was trying to be realistic. When the match finally started we missed lots of chances and my doubts grew. Then the first goal came, I’m not very good with my head. But I went for the near post on the corner from Emmanuel (Petit). I got there and the ball came, and I headed it right for once. It’s fabulous. My thought was, “this is just a coincidence”. Then I got the second goal, I was just ecstatic. Dreams are coming true, I have my two goals as Emmanuel had said. Then in the second half, we lost Marcel Desailly to red card, my doubts came again, “Brazil can still equalize”, I told myself. We held the ball well and tried to see the game through, then the most amazing thing happened, we had a break and at the end of it was Emmanuel, he got the third goal on the dot of the final whistle. I told myself, “little wonder he didn’t see who got the third goal”.

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There was huge pressure, especially before the big games. Not many people believed in us, but we believed in ourselves. We wanted to do something good and we did. Climbing the podium that day to collect the medal everything kept playing over in my head, dreams do come true, I finally agree. It may seems difficult to believe, even if you dream about it, hear about it, see it , want to do it, you tell yourself that it’s impossible. But since that day I never have doubts and that’s why in my life nothing is impossible.

In my life too, nothing is impossible, I might have challenges, I might be faced with limitations, impossibilities might seem written all over my circumstances but I am so confident that in my life nothing is impossible. I have seen dreams come true, I have heard testimonies, I have watch breakthroughs unfold, I have seen the unbelievable happen and I have come to the conclusion that nothing is impossible. Young men making the difference, ladies leading beautiful ideas, events challenging believe, old people giving hope, children with impeccable wisdom and I believe that is life reminding me, nothing is impossible! What about you?

What is Your Worth?

WHAT IS YOUR WORTH?

Tochukwu barged into her sister’s house and shouted “I’ve had enough, men are all the same”

Her elder sister Chioma, who was five (5) years older than her, got married three years ago to her first love Paul. Tochukwu used to tell her, “she is boring”, for dating the same guy for over 5 year. Chioma got married to her first love because she does not believe in changing men. She has this principle, “If you have found your true love then you have no reason to run back and forth with others. Stay faithful to your true love”. While Tochi, on the other hand, as everyone calls her, believes that there is nothing like true love. She is of the opinion that “If you find a rich man who loves you then marry him”.

As months passed by, with Tochi going to her sister’s house once in a while and she seeing the way her sister’s husband showers her with love, Tochi started having second thoughts about love and men. However, this particular day had been a very annoying day for Tochi, her boyfriend, Daniel, had insulted her publicly and the only person she could talk to was her elder sister. Chioma had been her confidant since childhood but when she barged into her home, Tochi had really passed her boundary this time. “Tochi this is my matrimonial home for God’s sake, what if my husband was home what exactly is wrong with you?” Chioma questioned, in a rather angry voice. Tochi apologize immediately sensing the annoyance. “What has men done to you this time?”, Chioma asked.

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Tochi then explained to her sister how Daniel publicly insulted her, by calling her a parrot, saying she talks too much. “Sis, he doesn’t respect me at all, he treats me anyhow”, she tried to hold back her tears. She continued, “Can you imagine it was inside the shopping mall that he insulted me o, in fact I’m never going back to him!”. Her sister smiled, just to calm her aching nerves, then asked her to sit down.

Then with a voice so gentle yet firm, Chioma began, “Tochi, No man will respect and value you until you learn to respect and value yourself”. Tochi had a puzzle look on her face.  Chioma smiled again and continued, the issue of being valued, does not only come in relationship with your partners or spouses, it also affects your relationship with people in general. Have you ever wondered why your friends talk to you anyhow or why your boss or even your siblings treat you without courtesy? It all boils down to how you carry yourself, the value you place on yourself and the aura that you carry around you.

Let me ask you a question; when you look in the mirror what exactly do you see? If you see a man or woman who is timid, ugly and stupid, I’m afraid, everyone you come across that day would most likely see you that way too. When you look in the mirror why not see a man or woman who is confident, smart and intelligent, you have nothing to lose, after all, God created you that way. People will keep on messing with you until you learn to raise your price tag, Chioma concluded.

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“Don’t rely on some-one else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself- no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are- completely; the good and the bad and the changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different”. – Stacey Charter

To my beautiful ladies, if he actually slept with you at the backseat of his car you can’t expect him to think you are worthy of a matrimonial bed! You need to know that you worth more than that and you are not just a toy to play with. To my handsome men, if a lady makes you feel less and compares you to other men then you need to stand up and let her know you are the best. There is so much inside of you why would you settle for less than you deserve?

When you are walking, raise your head high and be confident of the fact that you worth so much more than precious stones. I need you to know that every mistake you have made and all the bad experiences you have had, all sums up to make you better than you were before. Know that because you failed at something has not made you worth less. You need to fall in love with yourself everyday because if you don’t love you, nobody will. After all it is love your neighbor as yourself meaning your first love is yourself.

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I know we are not all perfect but with learning and believing in oneself, we get better every day. I need you to know that you worth so much more, if you are in a gathering of people who make you feel less, then I think you need to change such people. Hang out with friends who make you feel better and brighter. Don’t stay where you are tolerated, move on to where you will be celebrated. Remember nobody can make you feel worthless without your permission. You are a treasure that should be treasured. You are so very special!

I love you and I believe in you!

Omodara Oluwabunmi Onome

Value of Time

Value of Time

I know you have big dreams and sometimes it looks as if they will not to come to pass, I understand this feeling too but I want to ask you, “what are you doing with the gift of time you’ve been given?” You need to give yourself time by being diligent, you don’t have to rush things, yet you have to understand that every second counts. If you manifest before your actual time I’m afraid you might soon be forgotten and if you manifest too late you might never reach self-actualization before your time passes. How you value and use your time will greatly determine when and how your manifestation will be. You need to invest your time in productive things, plan your dreams, set goals, be determined and be consistently persistent.

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Every man who has a dream will pass through two phases;
The NURTURING PHASE: this is the phase where you start nursing your dreams. This is where you have to get creative, imagining where you want be and how you can get there. You pen down all you need, to achieve your desired dream; the qualifications, the certifications, the experience, the set of people you have to relate with and the kind of places you have to be. Your resolve will be tested, your competence will be challenge and there will be difficulties. At this phase, you need mentor(s), people who can guide you and help you form. People who can curb your excesses, manage your youthful exorbitance and prune you to the right shape. Time is very valuable at this phase, if you don’t get all that is required of you to fulfill your dream in the shortest time possible, it will delay you from reaching the next stage.

The MANIFESTATION PHASE: this phase comes when your good dream starts to manifest. At this point, you must have acted on all you have planned, you would have failed a couple of times, but eventually you will start to get it right. Then people starts to celebrate you, recognise you and recommend you. This stage is where you stare at success, hold it in your hands and keep watch so that it doesn’t consume you. Life gets a little complex, decisions have to be made within the shortest time possible and there will be pressure from all angles. Time seems so inadequate, you want more than 24hours in a day and then you have to be in more than one place at a time.

There is something between the Nurturing and manifestation phase and that is “TIME”. The obvious truth is that your dreams will not come to pass in one day, like all good things, it takes time. One great investment God gave every human being equally is time, it is how productive your time is that determines how and when your manifestation will take place.  A lot of people spend their own time complaining, worrying and wallowing in self-pity,  all these are rocking chairs they don’t take people anywhere. Your time has to be invested productively and just because you failed the first time you attempted something does not mean you are a failure, you need to try again but this time smartly.

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God is not a magician but a miracle worker, He doesn’t bless empty hands. He blesses the works of our hands and products of our labour. So stop being so lazy, you need to wake up and invest your time in something productive. Every great man is a good investor of time; Sportsmen spend time training, Artist spend lots of time rehearsing most times doing same thing over and over again, Entrepreneurs keep brainstorming to find new businesses to go into, inventors keep wondering what other problems can be solved profitably while other professionals invest quality time in research all in a bid to improving themselves… Successful people are never lazy because they understand the value of time.

It was Malcolm Gladwell who said in his book Outliers that “there are no geniuses, the world is filled with men who have dedicated their time in hours of practice to be a better person”. When you do same thing over and over again, you become a master or specialist at that thing. You have all it takes to succeed, stop complaining and start working.

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Charles Darwin said “A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of time” you need to stop wasting your time and energy on irrelevant things, you need to get up and pursue your dreams. Your good dreams will definitely come to pass, it doesn’t matter how many times you have failed, you should always be on your toes and keep moving forward. It’s not time to cry or complain, it’s time to move on and get value for every second you have got. You are a success don’t settle for less!

I believe in you!

Omodara Oluwabunmi Onome

Bless The Lord

Bless The Lord, Every Living Soul

Only God is worthy of our worship
Bless the LORD, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the LORD, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, (He) who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

For He is faithful and merciful
The LORD works righteousness and justice for all who are oppressed. He made known his ways to Moses, his acts to the people of Israel. The LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever (because He is merciful). He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities.
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He knows and understands us, and has the best plans for us
For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us. As a father shows compassion to his children, so the LORD shows compassion to those who fear him. For he knows our frame; he remembers that we are dust. As for man, his days are like grass; he flourishes like a flower of the field; for the wind passes over it, and it is gone, and its place knows it no more. But the steadfast love of the LORD is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear him, and his righteousness to children’s children, to those who keep his covenant and remember to do his commandments.

Every soul both on earth and in heaven worship God
The LORD has established his throne in the heavens, and his kingdom rules over all. Bless the LORD, O you his angels, you mighty ones who do his word, obeying the voice of his word! Bless the LORD, all his hosts, his ministers, who do his will! Bless the LORD, all his works, in all places of his dominion. Bless the LORD, O my soul!

Reference
Psalm 103

Your Time is Your Life

Your Time is Your Life

Time, not money, is your biggest asset in life. You need time to invest in relationships (with yourself and your family) or to chase your passion.
“Think again” if you are still trading off time for money. Let your money work for you. You don’t work for money. That is exactly what Financial Freedom is… – Manoj Arora , From the Rat Race to Financial Freedom

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There are 24hours in a day but you can have more than 24 productive hours in a day. There is a difference between normal hours and productive hours. One day in productive sense, is equal to the number of hours you make use of that actually impact on your life before dusk turns to dawn. The rich understands that Time is their most valuable asset and what they do is to hire more hands (that’s buy more time) to get the most from a day. The cheapest form of this can be seen in networking and marketing.

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Take for instance, a man who sleeps for 10hours, eats and have fun for another 10hours then uses only 4hours for something productive, that means in a 24hour-day he only gets 4 productive hours. On the other hand, a young entrepreneur, sleeps for 6hours, eats and have fun for another 6hours, works for 12hours, then hires 4men who also work 9hours for him, effectively he will be having 48 productive hours in a single day. Now you understand why the first man is barely getting-by and the second man is living large.

Some have mastered the use of time that they actually make money per second. Mike Adenuga gets money for every second you spend on a Glo line, that’s your time working for him. For every minute you spend on Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg gets an alert, your idle time working for him. For every hour spent at a football viewing center, the viewing center guy is counting cash, your time making him rich. If you are employed, your employer hires you first to add your time to his time, then maybe for your skills to make you efficient. Your employer can’t be everywhere at the same time hence because of this limitation, he puts a value on your time and buys it off you. Don’t get me wrong, it is nice to have fun, get employed but it is also fair that you understand that your time is precious and more valuable than you know.

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The value of time is best appreciated if you put it to use. Better put, the worth attached to time depends on how one translates every second to money (earning ability). The truth is, no employer will pay you the true worth of your time, no matter the value placed on it, your time is still a part of your life that you can never get back. This is why it is saddens me, when I sees able bodied young men waste away their time.  Some go as far as asking other friends, “what can I (we) do to kill this (time) number of hours?”, they conveniently murder part of their lives.

Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of. One man gets only a week’s value out of a year while another man gets a full year’s value out of a week. – Charles Richards

Your time is your life, don’t waste it. Your time is your greatest resource and most undervalued asset, be careful the price tag you put on it. Don’t waste your time on unproductive ventures, rather see how you can increase the number of productive hours you have in a day. Put your hours to use, invest money in them and let them work for you. Even if you have to offer your service to someone who can afford them, make sure you buy others’ time that you can afford and let them work for you too, that way you end up with more. Every tick of the clock, that’s a part of you ticking by, never let it go to waste.

For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again. – Eric Roth , The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay

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Without Fail

Without Fail

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Without Fail

Failing doesn’t always mean you’re out of the game. Sometimes you have to look at the bright side of failure and learn from it. Let’s take a look at some famous failures and how these people, and the work they produced, achieved astounding successes.

90%

Percentage of business startups that fail.( 1)

42%

The percentage of those startups that fail because of a lack of a market for their product.(1)

Construction companies have the lowest 5-year survival rate, at 36.4%. (2)

Famous Fails

Absolutely no one would ever call these famous figures “failures.” But all of them are no strangers to disappointment.(5)

J.K. Rowling

“I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless.”

Before becoming the best-selling author of the Harry Potter series, J.K. Rowling was seriously down on her luck. But she definitely turned it around, with a now $15 million brand.

$910 million

Estimated net worth of J.K. Rowling (3)

Steve Jobs

“I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.”

Sometimes failures are a blessing in disguise, as the late CEO of Apple discovered. He went on to build an empire that led him back to his own tech start-up and made him a billionaire.

4,000

Number of employees that work for Apple (5)

Bill Gates

“It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.”

Gates often felt like a failure for dropping out of Harvard, but even more so when his first startup, Traf-O-Data, went under. But he went on to become the billionaire owner of Microsoft and an extremely charitable philanthropist.

31

Age of Gates when he started Microsoft, becoming the world’s youngest self-made billionaire at the time (5)

Michael Jordan

“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

In his younger years, Jordan was overlooked by some basketball coaches because he didn’t reach the minimum height standard. Now, his championship record and Nike apparel speak for themselves.

$1 billion

Michael Jordan’s estimated net worth (4)

Albert Einstein

“Success is failure in progress.”

Though known as one of the most brilliant minds in history, Einstein was once expelled from school and subsequently refused entrance to the Zurich Polytechnic School.

1921

Year that Albert Einstein won the Nobel Prize in Physics for his work in theoretical physics (5)

Abraham Lincoln

“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.”

After failing in business and suffering a nervous breakdown, Lincoln went on to become one of the most influential presidents of the United States.

5

Number of elections Lincoln lost before being elected president in 1861 (6)

Turning Failure Into Success

Here are some simple steps that will help you look at failure a little differently.(7)

1. Investigate what went wrong. Don’t generalize or place blame. Just objectively find where it all went wrong.

2. Learn from failure. Don’t fall into the trap of repeating history. Learn from your failure and vow never to make that mistake again.

3. Realize you’ve nothing left to fear. Once you’ve failed, you’ll know that there is nothing left to be afraid of. You’ve hit bottom, so now all you can do is head upward.

4. Recognize accountability. If you were the reason you failed, accept responsibility. But don’t beat yourself up about it — just move on.

5. Find innovation. In failure, there is room for creativity. Sometimes trying new things leads to failure, but you are more apt to take risks because of it.


By Bella Campbell
Sources:
1. http://www.forbes.com
2. http://smallbiztrends.com
3. http://entertainment.time.com
4. http://www.celebritynetworth.com
5. http://www.lifehack.org
6. http://www.civilwar.org
7. http://www.inc.com

A Fresh Start

A Fresh Start

Let me take this time to welcome you to this New Beginning. The fact that you made it this far, shows you are a potential success. It shows you are still in God’s plans and it also proves the fact that you are loved by God. Every New Beginning comes with lots of enthusiasm, passion, energy and new drives. We begin to have different resolutions and goals but what happens as time pass by… lots of people begin to give up and they gradually move back to their old habits and small dreams.

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It is not enough to say you want to have bigger dreams, there is a need to work towards it. There is need to have plans. Planning helps you keep track of where you are and gives you an idea of where you want to be. It does not really matter how the past years have been, the fact is, it is never too late to have a new beginning, that the ultimate turning point that ensures you don’t give up on your dreams. You need to dream new dreams that supersede your old dreams, set new goals and have bigger ambitions, if that is what it takes!

Opportunities await men that are prepared, don’t just sit down and expect miracles to happen, you need to work towards your dreams. Don’t just accept defeat, get up and get on. Set new goals, take the lessons from the disappointment of the old dreams and build a new one. Every successful person you see or hear of today once failed at something. They have faced rejection at different points in their lives but because they didn’t give up, because they grew hungrier for success rather than weary, they became the success story everyone wants to hear or read.

Michael Jordan
Michael Jordan is an American former basketball player born in Brooklyn, New York. He tried out for his varsity basketball team during his second year in high school and was rejected because he was deemed too short to play at that level but his taller friend made the team, moved to prove his worth he trained vigorously and grew four inches (10cm) which earned him a spot on the team. Though he his retired but he is a legend in the game he was once rejected basketball.

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Colonel Sanders
Colonel sanders was the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC), it was at the age of 62 that he set out with a $105 social security check in hand to pitch a chicken recipe to restaurants. 1009 people rejected him and told him he was crazy but he never gave up. In 1952 he hit the road and began trying to sell his franchise-model chicken restaurant. Today KFC can be found everywhere in the world.

Opera Winfrey
She was fired from Baltimore WJZ-TV for being too emotionally involved with the stories she reported  but today she claims she would be nothing without her emotions, as of 2013 her net worth is approximately $2.9 billion.

This is a new day, it is another opportunity to have a fresh start, it is a time to set new goals and ambitions, don’t give up because you were rejected yesterday or day before. Learn from your past failures and forge ahead with great confidence and hope. We come closer to success every time we fail. It was Lao Tzu who said “Failure is the foundation of success, and the means by which it is achieved”

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It is indeed your time for great exploits and unprecedented success, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.  Make God number one in all you do, keep your focus on what is important and nothing will be able to stop you.

I love you and I believe in you

Omodara Oluwabunmi Onome

Resolution Self-actualization

Resolution Self-actualization

Self actualization is moving from the realm of “what can I do?” to the realm of “what can’t I do?”.

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The word “Perfect” was designed to make people feel inferior. No one is perfect, Perfect Christ ended on the cross. If you are gentle they call you slow, if you are sharp they call you rough, if you are friendly they call you a flirt, if you are keeping to yourself then they say you are a snub and if you just try to blend-in they conclude that you are confused. Don’t try to please anyone in the name of trying to be perfect. Just be yourself and be true to who you are, all other things will fall in line.

Change not because someone has asked you to, change because you have found reasons to, that way you will have reasons to hold on through the rigorous changing process. Also remember, don’t change because you want to be perfect, you might end up hating yourself when you realize perfection is a scam, change because you want to be a better you and that you can never regret.

It is easy to ask people to accept you for who you are but you have to be sure you actually know who you are that way you will have an idea of what you are asking others to accept. Without self-awareness there can’t be self-actualization.

The era of sitting back and watch event unfold is over, now if you want it done right you have to step up and influence. Evil hasn’t been triumphing over good because the devil is more powerful but because the good people have chosen to be silent. Now is time to break the silence, now is time to become influential and now is time to reach for the stars.

The best feeling is the joy that comes from helping. This feeling is priceless, if you have not felt it before then you have not been helping without expecting something in return. I think it is never too late to start.

Don’t just try to be you, be a better you. Don’t just look to be happy, make others happy. Don’t just hope to be blessed, seek to be a blessing. Attain a higher understanding of what you think know, don’t set limits to what you think you can achieve, make every day count for something. Don’t forget your life is a gift, live like you truly appreciate it.

It is a new start, the goal is self-actualization and the star of the show is you. You have to make it happen, no procrastination, no fears, no scepticisms, no blame game, no waiting till it is perfect. There is no good time to start but now, even when it seems the odds are not so good, remember actions are the best antidotes to doubts. Make a move, be adventurous, test new limits, jettison the box and think without boundaries, expand your coast, be the best you can be and even lots more. Don’t die with guilt of unaccomplished list. It is a New Year, it is the time for a New You!
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