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How to Ace an Aptitude Test with 10 Easy Hacks

How to Ace an Aptitude Test with 10 Easy Hacks

Aptitude test are tests of specified abilities on a specific task most of the time they are administered to screen job applicant so that the best fit or qualified are chosen.

The scoring and marking of an aptitude test usually depends on the norm of the population or could be the immediate test group population so that the score are compared with regard to rank and how many are the applicants.

Aptitude tests may be found difficult as most of the question requires adequate thoughts and most times logical many aptitude tests in corporate negative marking to their scheme just be cautions of write answer as there is only one right answer for every question.

The timing in any aptitude test is usually against the candidates but you can be smart enough to tackle all the question some might be so much that many of these question could be left unanswered.

If you want to tackle an aptitude test, these are the sure-fire ways:

1. Be informed
Yes, be informed about the timing, venue, likely questions and a whole lot of tests that can make your anxiety reduce a bit, is a way to getting prepared.

2. Minimize worry
Know and accept that this although might be your first time on test like this, you are not the only one in this shoe. Many other guys have threaded this same path and smart ones, who subconsciously followed these 10 hacks succeeded, you too can be better.

3. Prepare ahead of the time
Consult books, practise past questions well enough weeks before the test or if the test is on impromptu, devise a faster way to assimilate. This is very important as it can help a lot in boosting your reasoning power and processing speed.

4. Concentrate more on your area of expertise
Since time usually works against test takers, it is a good idea to know a lot about what you know, so that you do not perform below average.

5. Cut off on the scheduled time
Have a wristwatch with you for proper timing. While you time yourself , just cut off on the timing> this means if the test is schedule for 45 minutes, plan to finish 15 minutes before the scheduled time (45 minutes), that is, 30 minutes.

6. Manage the limited time
If you don’t know the answer, skip to the next question but re-visit after all others have been attempted.

7. Eat light food but not necessarily junks
Before you go there at all, don’t skip your meal. If you need to not eat for some reasons such as spiritual practices, do it beforehand. Your brain needs energy and glucose is in fact an important source of this energy.

8. Reduce anxiety and high level of arousal
Be positive, happy and consider writing the test a privilege rather than some aggregated difficulties and perceived disappointments.

9. Follow the test instructions on the question paper to the later
Strictly adhere to all instructions and don’t start answering the questions until you are told to start because some invigilators/examiners are very strict that they help employers look for any of your mistake to screen you out. Harsh! You won’t let that happen to you.

10. Be all there with motivation
You might be instructed to write a motivational letter or take a short survey. Don’t take it with levity because this might be the real aptitude test. Be conscious of your grammars and the words you use to describe your personality. Be original but you can put yourself in a positive light in a way corresponding to your strength as described in your Curriculum Vitae (CV).

Hope article helps. Let’s hear your comments. Share this to make a change, you own that job and go get it right there.

Article by: Bukunmi Adewumi
For more post from Bukunmi Adewumi visit http://inspiresavvy.blogspot.com.ng/


Don’t Believe Everything You See

Don’t Believe Everything You See


Many people saw the above post on my timeline and I am sure most of them were like, “Selah has started again with his pious posts”. As much as I would have loved to attribute the post to my being ‘pious’, it was actually necessitated by some personal events that took place few weeks before the post. So I urge you to sit back, enjoy the gist and maybe learn a thing or two.

So as usual, I was going through Facebook looking for trends and lovely posts to be part of, then I saw the profile of an old friend, someone I used to be very close to some few years back. On his profile was this picture of him on a beautiful white bed with lots of dollars (cold cash) scattered on the bed. The first thought that came to me was, ” yes o, my guy don hammer”. Instantly, I searched for his number, called him but the number wasn’t going through, so I concluded immediately that my guy is no longer in this country. Next I sent a Facebook chat to him and he responded enthusiastically, we exchanged pleasantries and tried to catch up on old times.

The following day he was the first to buzz me on Facebook messenger, “he started with how successful he is now and how he is willing to expand and carry his friends along”. To me that was impressive, his pictures said so much about success, so I had no problem believing him. Eventually, he said he had this business he was currently working on but he needed $1000 about #300k to finalize the deal. He asked if I could spare that and in 2weeks, he will pay me #500k. Tempting offer, but then my mama taught me that if it is too good to be true, it is definitely not true.

Anyway, I ignored mama’s words, I told him I will see what I can do. If you know me too well, I don’t tie down capital (as an economic), so there was no idle #300k hanging around. So I thought of calling few friends, to see who had such idle cash, eventually got someone willing to drop #150k with a promise he will get #200k in 2weeks time, I had #100k, so I was left with sourcing for #50k. This was already the third day and this my friend practically sends Facebook message to me every hour to ask how far. I told him I had #250k already but should have the #300k by the end of the week. He lamented how the opportunity might be missed and so I had to intensify my search for the remaining #50k.

Finally I remembered this guy, also a friend and he happens to know this my money spinning friend that wants turn #300k to #500k in two weeks. So I called him up and told him I needed #50k, this guy is ‘street’ so he insisted on knowing what the money was meant for. Bound by my goody two shoes rule, I told him the whole story. He just started laughing, – I was getting irritated now – “what’s funny?” I asked. He just said, ‘hope you have not sent him the #250k’, I said No. He said ‘thank your God!’ He then showed messages from this same guy, with the same proposition to him some months back. He said he fell for it and lost #280k. He said after he transfered the money to a Nigeria bank account as he was instructed, this guy stopped replying his messages meanwhile no known phone number or address to trace him.

I couldn’t close my mouth, so my guy has not arrived, all those pictures were just to lure unsuspecting victims, like I almost fell for it. It just occurred to me, I really have no way of contacting him besides the Facebook messenger. So what I did next was to send Facebook message to him saying “Hi, I got the money and Shola (name of my other friend he swindled) is saying hello too”. What I got as reply was shocking, he immediately ‘unfriend’ me on Facebook and till today, I got no message from him.


Don’t believe everything you see on social media, half of it is not true and those that are true are often exaggerated.
If you have not seen someone in a while be diplomatic while relating with them, don’t just disclose everything about your life.
If you are a lady, don’t fall for the display of wealth and affluent on social media, they are most likely not your answered prayers but nightmare your mama warned you about.
Don’t bemoan your life because of what someone displayed, what many people are really going through if they tell you, you will be in the front roll for thanksgiving next Sunday.
Be smart, don’t fall for the games of these people leaving fake lives, don’t let them make you question your life and then make wrong choices.

If you are on the right path, keep at it, it will soon pay off. Don’t claim to be what you are not just to be liked by people. Even when you have so much be modest about it. It is a world you can’t really predict, stay real.


Know When To Let Go

Know When to Let Go


On your journey to achieving your dreams, you have to know when to empty your sac, when to fill up and when to keep it light. Sometimes we are too attached to our past that we don’t know, when it is time to move on. Picture an adult still walking around with a doll his parents got him when he was just 5years, unimaginable right? But the truth is that is what most of us do. We hold on to things of the past like relationship, events, words, believes, ideas, grief, loss and so on, we get too attached that we don’t realize, it is time to let it go, like the man still holding on to his old doll.

If it is not adding value to you, then letting go is not an option, it is a necessity. Don’t ruin your future by holding on to old and redundant beliefs, life styles, relationships, ideas, doctrines, people, emotions etc. There is a bright future ahead of you and you can always start with a clean slate any time. There is a whole lot you can do for yourself, if you are willing to let go of those things holding you back. No matter how great the past was, the future can always surpass it but you have to give the future a chance and trust that your best is still ahead.
Make no mistake, letting go is not the same as giving up… You let go of something in your past because you are on to something better in your future.

Relationship Tips From Onomewrites

Relationship Tips From Onomewrites


#OnomeWrites is a compilation of thoughts on relationship that is designed to guide your choice of life partner, to help foster your existing relationship and to light up dark areas in marriages. For clarification and personal counseling you can email me at  onomewrites@gmail.com.

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Omodara Onome
A good relationship consists of two people who are ready to learn from each other. Don’t be rigid, it is a partnership that’s why he or she is called a life partner and your partner’s opinions should count, if you want the best for your relationship.

Feelings could be deceptive and often times temporary but true love stands the test of time. Time reveals that which is true. Give yourself time before you take decision and when it comes to love never be in a rush!

In an ideal relationship there is a need to respect and value each other’s opinion! Your partner’s opinion should matter to you so that you can agree.

True love communicates. Communication is a vital key in any relationship. If you’re not doing that something is wrong.  Fight to resolve differences  but never estrange communication!

If you have to beg for affection and attention then something is wrong in your relationship. Fix it before you tie the knots. You are both worth more, don’t manage into marriage.


It’s okay to have fantasies but it should never be a yardstick, there’s no perfect person but people could be better with lots of love & encouragement.

If she is not ready to build your dreams with you then she’s not worth it&if he’s not ready to help you in making your good dreams a reality then you need to do a rethink. Love is all about working & celebrating successes! Dreams should be built together cos it takes two sane mind to tango!

If you want to have a good relationship, you need to desire and then resolve in your heart to give as much as you expect no matter what it takes!

As a lady, If he doesn’t respect you now, then you need to think twice before you tie the knots. Raise your self-esteem, you are not to be messed with, you are to be celebrated.

We don’t attract what we want but who we are, if u want to get a better mate then be a better person. You attract who you are.

Selfishness is anti-relationship. If you want to make your  relationship work avoid self-centeredness! The word is not “mine” but “ours” if the relationship is to work. Compromises, sacrifices and dialogs are what relationship thrives on.

One of God’s greatest gift is an unanswered prayer, we may not understand now but He sees what we cannot see! All we have to do is trust Him.

A soulmate is someone you can connect with spiritually, emotionally, mentally and intellectually and at the same get attracted to physically. That is the ideal partner!

Sweetheart, your beauty will attract him but to keep him you need more than that. To your beauty add character, intelligence and diligence; (in all) be a better person!

Don’t marry him or her because somebody you respect told you to. They won’t live with that person for you, you are the one who will. Make your choice wisely!

If he does not respect his mother, he’s never going to respect you and she’s going to respond to you the same way she responds to her father.  If his own parents cannot correct him, then “who are you?”  Fight it out now, don’t be fooled, “marriage changes no one”…

Sweetheart, no matter how angelic and “holyghostic” the person the vision came from, I don’t care if it was passport photograph you saw before proposing to her or before accepting his proposal, you need to understand that there is a place of working it out. God will not do for humans what humans should do (for him/herself). True love is achieved when two people deliberately and consciously decide to make it happen. You are not perfect so is your spouse. Work on your character and keep growing (together).


Hi lovebirds,  can I please borrow a little bit of your time?
There is more to love than candle light dinners,  going to picnics together,  getting matching wristwatches and shirts, going to cinemas and all the other emotional stuffs.  Hey,  don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying its bad, it’s good. It’s shows how much you care but there is more to love. True love is about growing together, learning together, working towards achieving the same goal and then celebrating success together.

Only humans possesses side mirrors to check cars coming behind God does not. You know why? Because in God’s kingdom there is no reverse, He only looks forward to the good you are doing now (the present)…. Don’t hold on to the past when God has already forgiven you, God is not mad at you. So move on!

Sweetheart, being fulfilled should not come from your spouse, please get a life! Your spouse is meant to complement you not redesign you! Don’t wait for your partner before you do something let him meet you doing something let her meet you fulfilling your dreams…

Can you please stop nagging and complaining, try to compliment him and pray for him, he’s not perfect, you are neither. Treat him like a king!

Sweetheart, you were created for so much more, stop living a shallow life, inside you is a great woman, a woman with ideas that will turn the world around. Find the real you. You were designed to excel.

If you are one of those who has this long list of what you expect from your partner, let me ask you a question, how many of those qualities do you possess? Stop chasing the perfect person be the perfect person you want to chase. Invest in you and be a better person!

If he/she does not support your God, please do a rethinking, losing your God over a relationship is not worth it…


7 Relationship Facts
1. Just because she comes to your house every weekend to do your laundries, she cooks good meals for you and she cleans your house, that does not guarantee a submissive wife she might just be talented in house chores…

2. God designed you to be her lord and king to protect her and move her to her promised land, He didn’t design you to boss her around and treat her like your maid servant, she is a queen and she deserves to be treasured treat her like a queen!

3. Just because you met him in church and he is a worker, does not mean he is broken…. Don’t just assume be very sure! Everyone is a saint in church…..

4. A good relationship consists of two givers, it is not only a man who should give, surprise him with gifts and encourage him…..

5. Stop looking for the perfect person, become the person you want to chase! Become a better person everyday….

6. Don’t generalize your belief system, just because somebody broke your heart does not mean every other person you meet wants to hurt you, people are different!

7. This is the final fact, this goes for everybody whether single or engaged, don’t stop learning, build your intellect! Build your relationship with God! God dreams a bigger dream for you than you can ever imagine! You are created to excel don’t settle for less…

I Love You

I Love You

‘I love you’ probably the most confusing three words in history. Questions like; does it exist, can it be true, is it real, is it possible at first sight, why all of a sudden etc trail these words, often born out of the stories of love we have read and past experiences. In a letter I published sometime ago “what is love?” wherein a young lady tried to explain the unconditionality of these words, I still ask myself this question, “can anything be unconditional?”. I mean can we love without expecting something in return? Life has taught me that these words often create that sense of obligations and expectations such as; reciprocating, obeying, caring for, being best friends with, worshiping, accepting, giving time to, listening to, forgiving when I wronged etc.

‘True love’, as my dear writer friend Onome likes to use, now takes the complication to a whole new level. ‘True love’ has been used in series of articles, often times to mean a love so divine, devoid of anything evil or selfish intentions and therefore creating a picture of an eldorado or place of peace in relationship but then does this really exist? Truth itself is a function of time and state; present, past and future, if you agree with this, then you will also agree with me that ‘true love’ could have a time validity or worse still a time constraint that could render it more or less potent as time passes. This is just an hypothesis though, don’t ha


te me yet.

Enough of my twisting and turning! Love is real, trust me, just that it  holds different meaning to different people. Literally, we can say love is a desire to an end; a desire only the confessor of the words truly knows to what intent and extent. Okay, simply put, only the person saying those words (I love you) can really say what he or she real means, that is, how deep is the desire, what are the intentions, the terms and conditions apply and to what length he/she is willing to go.

For clarity sake, we have all been made to believe the words “I love you” should mean; you are the only one, I can’t live without, you are my everything, there is no one else above, I will be with you always and forever etc but in reality this seldom happens.

The truth is when you interpret the words “I love you” from someone else based on your own “desire of intent and extent”, you most often than not get it all wrong. For instance:
From a mother to a son- ‘I love you’ may mean ‘I will make sure you turn out right’. The son would be wise not to mistake it for ‘you can do as it pleases you’ or else he will see rebuke from his mother when he is wrong as betrayal of love.
From a player boy to a side chick- it may mean ‘I want to have sex with you again and again’. The side chick should not mistake it for ‘I will be with you forever’ or else she will see the guy getting married to the main chick as betrayal of love.
From an extortionist to a pure heart- it may mean ‘I like the way you spend on me’. The pure heart should not mistake it for ‘I can cross the ocean for you’ or else he/she will see the extortionist’s walking away when there is no more money as betrayal of love.
From a pastor to the congregation, it may mean ‘I am happy to have you in my church and I pray you make heaven’. The church should not mistake it for ‘I can die for you’ or else when the pastor chooses his family above church members, the church will see it as betrayal of love. And so on

My point is, there is no absolute (in reality) to measure these words or what to expect. What we all have to go on with are merely our imaginations and what we think the other party might be saying. However, if we take time to understand what the other person wants (to what end) maybe relationship will be less complicated and more worth the time. So when next someone tells you I love you, be wise enough to probe further because it is better to know what to expect and your likely obligations than to assume it is just unconditional.

From me to you, I love you (meaning I appreciate you reading my articles, I hope they have positive impacts in your life and I definitely want to see you at the top).



Capital is Not Your Problem

Capital is Not Your Problem

We are not limited by the things that surrounds us but by the things within us. – Selahsomeone

In my article, Be The Boss, in one of the comments a lady challenged me, asking if alongside the ideas, I will also provide capital for people? This question hit me because I am aware most people claim capital is what is stopping them but then I also realized that there ideas in that collections that require zero capital to start. Then I remembered the words of Jon Ochs, “Lack of money has never stopped anyone fully committed to a cause from achieving it.”

In other words, “Capital has never stopped anyone from being successful but lack of  beautiful ideas and poor mindset will always do”.


Let me share this true life story with you, even though I am sure some of you have heard it before. There were these three friends from a tertiary institution in Lagos State Nigeria, they came up with an idea to develop a website that will assist business people with information on interstate buses; departure time, boarding location, prices etc. This idea costs them practically nothing to set up, however getting relevant information was very tasking but they were committed to it. Four years down the line, the website had grown to become a first to recon with for business travellers, then they got an offer, some big corporation wanted to buy the website. Eventually, they agreed on some whopping million Nairas for a website, it took them less than nothing to set up and now these boys are millionaires.

Do you still think what is stopping you is capital?

You might have beautiful ideas that you think would look good provided you have large sum of money to back it up but trust me if those ideas are truly beautiful then there should be a way of breaking them into bits and starting small. Most big money making corporations you see today once started small; while most big celebrities you adore today were once nobody hustling from one end of the street to another looking for auditions and producers to listen to their demo track. Starting small affords you the rare privilege of falling small and rising big; a chance to learn and nurse your dream to reality at the same time.

The mindset of champions do not come after they start winning, the mindset of champions come ever before they know what winning taste like. It is born out of desire to be successful; when your appetite to be a success story becomes more pronounced than your appetite for any other thing this world can offer.

Michelle Mone – Co-founder and CEO of MJM Ltd: Michelle attended a dinner where she was wearing a cleavage-enhancing bra. It was one of the most uncomfortable bras she had ever worn and she was convinced she could design a better one. 3 years of research and several debts later, she finally managed to design the perfect bra and her brand Ultimo was born.

J.K. Rowling – WRITER: The English writer was penniless when she moved back to England after divorcing her Portuguese husband and describes this period as ‘rock bottom’. She decided to finally finish her Harry Potter books and send them to agents and publishers. Although she was turned down by few and told ‘not to quit her day-job’ as they believed she can’t make it writing but she had that positive mindset that kept her going. Nowadays Rowling is one of Britain’s wealthiest women, she is even richer than the Queen and is highly involved in charity work.

BANKY W- Nigerian music icon, producer and singer: Begged To Sell CDs In Salons To Survive; Went To Church To Eat Free Food. Banky had to take up to three jobs while also in university! To start up his music career he would walk to the owners of salons, greet politely, and ask them to let his group entertain their customers. Sometimes, some would kick them out and sometimes some would say yes. If told yes, after singing for a minute or two, they would sell their CDs to the customers! But because he would not give up, fame found him.


Now again, do you think it is lack of capital stopping you?

Brace yourself, if you really want to excel, put your capital-problem mind aside, become creative with your dream, think of how you can break it into smaller units, how you can convince people to buy into it, how you can package it so invitingly that it becomes irresistible. Yes! There will be many rejections, many let downs and in fact friends and family will tell you it is a waste of time and try to put you off but if your idea is brilliant and if you have that positive mindset, sooner than you expect, you will make it to the limelight.



If You Don’t Have It, You Can’t Give It

If you don’t have it, you can’t give it

Can you give what you don’t have? Can you be what you are not? You are right the answer is No! You can only create it, when you can dream it. Even when everything points to failure, if there is hope within you and a mental picture of where you want be, somehow you will make there. The key is what is in you!

It is so unfortunate that a man cannot give what he doesn’t have. – Gov. Ayo Fayose

I may not be a fan of this man but I just love this quote!

The first place we succeed is in our heart; we have to first feel it in our guts then imbibe it like a culture, hold it up like a religion and be about it like a new love. Success don’t just drop on people’s laps, even if by a stroke of luck there was some windfall, if one does not have the success drive the money will soon finish. It is just natural.

To be successful, you must have the success mentality in you; to be a good leader, you must have the leadership qualities in you; to achieve your dreams, you must have invested in yourself towards that dream.
If you don’t have it, you can’t give it… that simple!

Invest in yourself, build yourself towards your dream, spend time alone, get to know yourself, fill the vacuum that you may notice, dig deep and find what motivates you… Then you are ready, ready to show the world what you have conceived, what you have nurtured, what has long stayed inside and you will be celebrated.

Have it, nurse it and be it. It is your story, write the happy ending you think you deserve.


What’s Your Passion?

What’s Your Passion?

When God gives you a vision for your life, it’ll burn within you like a fire that can’t be extinguished. The psalmist said, ‘My heart grew hot within me, and as I meditated, the fire burnt.’ So, what are you passionate about? What burns ‘hot’ within you?

When God calls you to do something, He creates within you both the desire to do it and the power to carry it out. Though you feel inadequate and unqualified, stand on His Word: ‘For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him’ (Philippians 2:13 NLT).

Mahatma Gandhi had a vision of a free and independent India at a time when it was governed by the British. Henry Ford had a vision of every family in America owning an automobile at a time when people were frightened of his new invention. Daniel K. Ludwig had a vision of a self-supporting industrial region in the heart of the Brazilian jungle at a time when there was no industry, no electricity, and no city of any kind for hundreds of miles.

Where do such creative desires come from? God, Who is our Creator! And when God gives you a true worldview, you’ll never be happy living in a narrow mental framework.

Are there times when you’ll feel afraid and uncertain about what to do? Yes! Fear and faith are two sides of the same coin, and they’ll always be part of your thinking. But the one you choose is the one that’ll determine your future – and you get to choose!

‘My heart grew hot within me, and as I meditated, the fire burned.’ Psalm 39:3 NIV (1984 Edition)

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Be The Boss

Be The Boss

Hi! My name is Omotayo

The world’s economy is currently in recession, as most economic indicators point. Jobs that are before now considered to secured and high paying are becoming increasingly scarce while the not too stable jobs have increased their laying off of staff. In Nigeria alone, a little below 1million people (according to NBS), have lost their jobs in the last one year and are now part of the estimated 22.45 million unemployed and underemployed Nigerians. (National Bureau of Statistics, April 2016).


Before now the solution would have been raising money to send one member of the family to UK, USA or Canada but the stories we are hearing about those already there are not too impressive. Hence this leaves us with just one solution, redefining our goals and reorienting those coming behind. If we want to be secured financially, then we must be ready to find alternatives to paid jobs.

Admittedly, Nigerian educational system was designed such that we all look forward to being gainfully employed, in fact most of our parents pray day and night that we get that life changing job but recent economy trends had proven that to be insufficient to surviving. Thus, the need for redefining  of goals by shifting our focus from ‘where do I get a job’ to ‘how do I  be my own boss’, and reorienting those coming behind through restructured educational system tilting the focus from ‘mastering of theoretical jargons’ to ‘empirical applications’, in other words a drive towards entrepreneurship.

Fear of the unknown is real, but most pronounced in our mind. However, when the future at stake is considered, it is worth a calculated risk.

Be the boss is the new slogan, a new way to go, the doctrine of people with dreams and who have not lost hope and faith in themselves. Either as part time or full time commitment, the drive now is towards having other streams of income; automated or manually controlled, investment (money errand) or physical activities, sole ownership or partnership, sales or marketing, whichever it is, making an extra income and ultimately being self sufficient is the new end game.

As fascinating as it is to be your own boss, lack of information can make it seem impossible; lack of information on dependable business ideas, sources of capital, breakdown of what to expect and how to handle them, risk assessment and other detailed information on other requirements. Like a big clog, this had stopped so many people while putting so many futures in doubts, and several others in the hands of Pension funds administrators (PFAs).

…and that is where we come in!

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The World Goes On Somehow


We all have problems, things that sometimes weigh us down, getting us to think late at night. But every morning we wake and go about our lives, smiling at those who or that which deserves a smile. It is not that we have forgotten the problems, I know I don’t, but they’ve just got time when they nag at us. We learn to live with these things, at least till we find solutions to them. Life must go on because no matter what happens, the world itself goes on somehow, and if we do not want to be left out we have to keep moving too.

Sometimes we love, and sometimes we trust. Sometimes in vain, love turns to hate. Sometimes deceiving thoughts, other times just mood swings. Then we go behind doors, shut from the world and cry. It hurts and we all know it but we have to be honest, as much as we want it, we cannot really promise that the cold wind would not blow. It definitely will blow but it does not spell an end. All we need to do is be strong and follow the glimpse of light because we must move on.

It is not childish or stupid to cry, even the most rigid of shoulders do fall. We just cannot continue to cry, like every other thing in life, crying also has its limit. We do not pause our life over something that is already out of our control, life does not follow logic, so we may not find the answers to all our whys and hows. It is quite unfortunate to lose what we hold so dearly; the heartbreak, the feeling of betrayal, the disappointment of failure, the shame of falling short but still life must go on.


Hug a friend, visit loved ones, call up a childhood friend, you will find them all worth having, and more than treasures. Then tick tock, the world goes on somehow and you not left behind.

Keep on being fair and just, hopeful and faithful, working and praying and soon a time will come when a thousand shall fall in your presence. God has not created us so that life will always be rosy, there will be tests, there will be rough patches and there will be stormy nights but then there will be testimonies. Now understand this, God won’t come from heaven to test us himself, surely some people will be the villains while others victims. We must learn to let go even when things don’t go according to plans and people don’t do as promised, we should know that these are to make us stronger in a life that will always move on.

Of course we will get weighed down, no one loses a job to smile, loses a loved one and laughs, have an accident and throw a party or fail at an endeavor and give a backslapping testimony. We must know that it had happened to some before us, it will happen to some after us and it is happening to others away from us. What sets successful apart is how they rose from their downfall, use their past to shape their future and ultimately move on to something greater.

Termites can only try, they will never devour a stone so whatever your obstacle or misfortune is, it is but for some time. Those rough times will never last but you will, if you are tough enough. You have to find a way to keep fighting. Jump over it, if it is not too high; walk around it, if it is not too wide; go underneath it, if it is not too low; but if all those fail, go right ahead and break through it! You are strong, trust me, if you believe, it will come to you. Remember its ticks, and then the world goes on somehow, you have to move on too.

In a study of people who grew up with dyslexia (a psychological effect of not being able to read letters), it was found out that most of them are actually successful in life. These people cannot read! But guess what? They made it. Studies show that most of them developed alternatives to learning;  some adapted to memorizing while others developed photographic memories snapping everything and recalling it like a photograph later. What they did actually is find advantages in their disadvantages, and in doing so, they created something different and unique to keep them moving.

Most often, what we think of as disadvantages are actually advantages. Little wonder the wise says, “negative events are most times blessings in disguise”. We all don’t pray to be a victim but like it or not, there will be periods of trials. Whatever happens to us in life, we should try and make the best of it so that when it ticks and the world goes on somehow, we would have found a way not to get left behind.

By Aremu Ibraheem Adebayo