Ties that Bind

​Ties that Bind; how compatible are you?

A lot of people have their lives wrapped around an abstraction which dictates much of their actions. It is termed, “love”. It is either love for someone, a deep attraction towards fantasies or the comfort they derive from a kind of activity or obligation. Whichever way it portrays itself, almost everyone has the feeling of love even if it is selflove.

The feeling can be consuming, always wanting to be around a person or thing, often times it can be really demanding though everyone else except the lover sees it that way. Little wonder, it is said that, “loving eyes never see”. The ecstasy it brings is like no other. It creates a bond with the object of affection- an inseparable feeling, a connection, a soul tie. Even when things go wrong and situations seem bad, love has its way of binding up wounds and subtly demanding sacrifices. You would not mind spending so much to fix your best car, travel across continents to visit your heartthrob or sitting down for hours doing a job you enjoy even when you are sick because it brings you happiness.

A verse of a popular song reads, “love is magical”, indeed it is, yet destructive when it involves two incompatible minds. Imagine that this magical feeling connects one incompatibly; it neither loses its potency nor bond, giving birth to a lover that is attached to someone or something that constantly derails him/her from a required course. It makes people put so much effort into a passion that leads nowhere. Since love is visually impaired, its leaves its captors with nothing else than the zeal to keep trying hard to “fix things” and sacrificing more to “make it work”.

Recently, it has become rampant to hear gruesome details about couples. Either a man beats up his lady to a pulp, a woman sends her husband to an early grave or a house owner is killed by his pet. Divorce has become part of nuptial agreement. Love is majorly responsible for these- not that it is an inappropriate feeling but because it was wrongly developed between incompatible lives. 

As a tie which it is, it merges hearts and most times confuses reasoning.  So, if you are in love wrongly, you tend to remain bound wrongly too. It is difficult to literally separate two bodies being held together by an adhesive, so it is when hearts adhere. It just sticks together, producing connections that can either build or mar its individuals; a forceful dismemberment always causes bruises, instability and hurt. 

Think wisely about that loveable attraction because its hold might be stronger than you could ever imagine.