Ways to people’s heart
There is this common saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, so true especially if the man is me. But then why would we need a way to anyone’s heart? Imagine having a way to the president’s heart, what kind of leap or lift that will give your personality or better still your career and ultimately your life.
We need to find ways into people’s heart for just one reason, to have them on Our Team; on our own side of the equation of life!
Warming your way into People’s Heart is not an easy task, not one that only good food can guarantee especially since not everyone is like me, plus trying to feed everyone will definitely cost you so much. So here are few tips that might help you to warm your way up:
1. Be funny
Being funny is the oldest trick to get people to like you. In the olden days, the kings would have servants around them just to crack them up; the funnier, the more presents from the king. This idea still works! Examples, most ladies for instance go for the funny guys, most events now crave for stand up comedians, most presentations start with a joke to lighten up the mood… that’s the extent of the power of jokes. So be funny, most people will want you around and most likely won’t forget you in a hurry but also be careful not to overdo it because there is just a thin line between being funny and being a joke (jerk).
2. Prove you can be loyal
The “48 laws of power” calls this selective loyalty. This is loyalty for an end purpose. People tend to love someone they can trust, and all you have to do is prove you are trustworthy. Watch their back even when they have not asked you to, when you see something that can hurt them, prevent it and make sure you take credit for it. Understand that the purpose is not just to be good (even though you should be good), the purpose is to take credit for being good. Rich men have been known to even give tests just to see, if their men are loyal. So yes! pass the test and you will warm your way up.
3. Let them believe they are gaining more
It is in the nature of people generally to like someone they can benefit from, while they try to avoid someone who tends to be a liability. So let them have the feeling they are gaining more from the relationship. Just the way most people remember you when you need to do something for them, create a feeling that they will always need you. Be good at so many things and render your service so selflessly. Just be a candle and people will need your light.
4. Be different
Basically be unique and know your worth. Don’t try to be like everybody or try to fit in, you will just end up being one of the rest and most likely anonymous to the essential people. Standout, you will be appreciated, more people will want to be around you and most of them will want to give all to stay around you. Know your worth but don’t wear it in pride, be creative, be about solutions and not problems, make suggestions and not criticisms but above all, show people why they need you.
To have a devoted team, you have to connect with each and everyone on your team emotionally; that helps establish the strongest bond of loyalty.
5. Relate with their stories
People like someone who can relate with their stories. Most people have emotional side, so always find a common ground with people you want to get close to. Relate with their stories, lives or experiences, it creates a kind of mental bond with them and keeps you in a special place in their heart. For instance, when you meet someone you want to get close to, find something the person is or has gone through that you have also gone through; like heartbreaks, loss of loved ones, winning against odds etc., that way they will always have a soft spot for you.
You are building a team of people who can help you achieve your dreams; some younger, some older, people of different fields, people of different aspirations, all these people must have one thing in common and that is the desire to want to be on your team.