Focus they say is when you keep your eyes on the prize; not the pains, the should haves, could haves, the yearnings, the feelings but your eyes on the prize. – Selahsomeone
Most people don’t reach their dreams because of two things; challenges and distractions. However, it is easy to think that what’s limiting us is our challenges but the truth is, we are already facing so much before we decided to dream, however distractions dress up as temporary comfort that makes us forget what we truly want. My mum would say “when God plans an open door for you on Friday, the devil opens something similar on Thursday just to stop you from attaining what God has planned”. Taking this into perspective, I think distractions are actually the doors opened on Thursday, that temporary comforts that stop us from soldering to Friday where the real open doors are.
Distractions can come in different forms; from sudden comfort to people’s distractions. Take these instances;
- You desire to graduate from your first degree same time you bag your ICAN exam but to do this you have to devote much time to reading, however your boyfriend or girlfriend feels you don’t have time for him/her. So you end up dropping your ICAN dreams just to make time.
- Your dream is to become a musician, artist, footballer, designer, comedian etc but your parents are putting pressure on you to quit because they feel it is a waste of time. Eventually you sacrifice your talent just to please your parents.
- Your dream is to own your own business and after struggling to put some things together, a family friend gets you a high paying job. You suddenly get distracted by money and end up dropping your dreams just to become an employee for the rest of your life.
- You desire to spend time daily to improve yourself and learn more about that dream of yours but as things would turn out, your new found love believes you guys ought to be on phone 24hours everyday. You end up doing nothing for yourself because you want to please your love. And so on.
Distractions often come to us in form of known faces, people we can’t refuse and offers that seem too good to be true but if we desire to keep our dreams alive we must by all means put up good resistance to distractions. I am not saying we should put up a wall of defense against our loved ones, emotions or other opportunities, what I am saying is, we should be so focused that we know when to draw a line between what they want and what we want.
Most dreams have been lost to relationship, family pressure, people’s opinion, sudden comfort and other distractions.
Our dreams will most likely not make sense to others but when we achieve them people will want to identify with us, however, before this happens, we would have a lot to do. Most dreams have been lost to relationship, family pressure, people’s opinion, sudden comfort and other distractions. Many are silent victims living with regrets and thoughts of what could have been. Don’t get me wrong, some people actually want the best for you now however, only by following your dreams can you truly experience the best of both trials and triumphs.
Do away with your distractions, as often as possible reassure yourself of what your dreams are. Understand the concept of ‘what you really want‘. When under pressure take some time out and reevaluate your stand and how far you have come, then make adjustments but don’t lose your dreams. Be about your dreams such that even the blind can see what drives you and the deaf can hear the sigh of your passion, this will keep most people away from trying to dissuade you or lure you to something else. Make it obvious what your priorities are, make room for what must be done no matter what, and when there is conflict of interest then your dreams should always come first.
The world is waiting for the next big thing, it could just be you we are all waiting for, don’t lose your dreams!