Interview with a player 5
This is my interview with a new friend of mine, he used to be a player, a heartbreaker and a chronic womanizer. He agreed to share some of his experiences with me and I hope we can all learn from them as well as from the few notes I took during the interview. You are welcome to the series.
Previously on Interview with a player
Selahsomeone: Welcome back readers, let’s learn as Mr. A continues with his story.
Selahsomeone: Mr. A welcome back after a long absence. I am glad to have you back. So let’s start this way, how did you handle it, when the truth came out that Miss O had been playing you all along?
Mr. A: Nice to be back Selah.
To be honest, I was taken by surprise with the turn of events with Miss O. She fooled me right from the onset. After she showed me the text, I now told her, nothing like that happened at Miss D’s place that it was all a ploy to unravel the mystery behind her threat texts, calls and claimed beatings. There and then she knew her game was up, she then started crying, she claimed she did it all for love and because she was scared of losing me. Selah, I was dazed, I have been played by one lady I could have sworn was naïve. She lied about Miss T and her lies practically killed every good memories of Miss T and almost made me an enemy of my good student.
You don’t judge by looks, when it comes to relationship even what the eyes see cannot be trusted. People can hide things and still join you in searching for them.
Selahsomeone: Hmm, painful I guess. But the truth is, the player was played, big time.
Mr. A: Hmm, you might want to say, that about summarized it. Though, a part of me realized that, it still didn’t feel less painful. Anyway, there and then, I made up my mind it was over with Miss O, I may be a cheat but I was not ready to settle down with another cheat, remember no honor amongst thieves.
Selahsomeone: So true. Okay, so what happened after that, your promise to take up her school responsibilities, miss D and Miss B?
Mr. A: Selah, a lot happened. My service was over and almost immediately, I got a job with one of the old generation banks. The pay was quite good for a fresh graduate and luckily Miss O got admission at the prestigious university in Ibadan. Even though we had agreed to go our separate ways, I still paid her fees up till her final year. And for miss D, I eventually found out she too had been all lies; false claim of being a virgin (still don’t understand why girls lie about things like that), she had an incurable appetite for sex (actually that’s about all she knew how to do then, she is much different now though, because I still keep in touch) so, I had to let her go too. Finally, I was left with Miss B.
Lies are the worst foundation you can build your relationship(s) on because when it storms, it would be blown away. You are better of, starting with the truth and reaching an understanding before you consolidate on what you have.
Selahsomeone: Wow! If I was right, that would be your 7th year of being together.
Mr. A: 8th actually! But unfortunately that was the last year we spent together.
Selahsomeone: What happened *now I was very curious* what could have separated Mr. A and Miss B (A&B connection) after everything they have been through?
Mr. A: Sometimes, karma has a way of coming back at us when we least expect. I proposed to Miss B on New Year’s eve of 2007 and sure her answer was “Yes”. We agreed we had to mend things with her cousins Miss K and Miss F (who both were still single at the time). We called them up one after the other, Miss K was too quick to give her blessings while Miss F was a bit reluctant but eventually she said okay but advised Miss B gets pregnant before we inform her parents (Miss B lost both of her parents some 5years back and since then Miss F’s parents had been like her Forster parents).
Miss F’s advice made a lot of sense. Miss F’s parents knew I dated her, so if I now showed up that I want to marry Miss B, it will definitely be a No No but if she was pregnant, they would probably have no choice. So we agreed she should get pregnant, even though she was having her NYSC up north, she was most times with me. For over 6months we tried to no avail, we did tests and we were told we are both fine but still I couldn’t get her pregnant. Finally, after her service year, we agreed she should go back to Lagos for some few weeks then come back finally and stay with me while we hatch a new plan for our wedding.
Some things would not work out just the way we want, not because we didn’t try enough but because somehow what we desire won’t fall fit in God’s perfect picture of us. Learn to live with your unanswered prayers!
That morning when she was going back to Lagos, I noticed she wasn’t her cheerful self, I asked her what the matter was but she just smiled and said, “I am going to miss you!”. I tried my best to comfort her, I told her it was just for some weeks and that I would always be with her on phone. I took her to the park, I was accompanied by a friend, I pulled her back as she was about to board the bus, I hugged her and I couldn’t miss the tears in her eyes, I smiled and planted a kiss on the teary cheek. She boarded the bus, I waited till the the bus was filled and the bus left.
This was around past 7am, it was a Monday morning and I have to make it back to the office before 7:30am. It couldn’t have been up to 10mins when Miss B’s bus left when a text message came into my phone. I was driving, so asked my friend to check the text and read it to me. He took my phone, flipped through the text and he said, ” turn the car around or pack this is bad”.
I was so confused, so I packed and snatched the phone from his hand to read the text and it went like this…
“‘A’ my love, it is so sad all these have to end, I want to be with you forever, God knows I want to but sometimes walking away is the only way forward, now that it is so clear some how the universe is against us. I will miss you and will forever cherish you. Never to see again!
PS: Don’t bother calling because I am breaking my SIMs now”
Selahsomeone: *sigh* wow! That’s harsh and almost unbelievable considering what you guys went though together and how many hearts suffered along the way. Did you make any effort to get her back?
We make the craziest decisions when we are emotional, often this point is our weakest yet we get stronger with each experience especially when we are not drowned by the bitterness or joy.
Mr. A: Selah, yes I did. I couldn’t reach her on any of her lines, and almost everyone we had in common said they didn’t hear from her. It was like in the movies, she disappeared only to resurface 3months after and guess what Selah!?!
She was getting married!
Selahsomeone: What? How? To whom?
Mr. A: Same questions that gave me sleepless nights. This totally broke my heart and harden the shattered pieces. I was taken for a fool by Miss T, played over and over again by miss O and finally dumped after everything by Miss B, i spun out of control and ended up in a players rendezvous.
Selahsomeone: RENDEZVOUS? Can you shed more light?
To be continued