26 Unsolicited Relationship Advice

26 Unsolicited Relationship Advice

By Dr Oddy @Omotookeodewole (you can follow him on Twitter at same handle)

As a reforming toxic partner, let me share some unsolicited advice with you all

1. When your partner calls you out on your bullshit – own it and apologise. Apologise genuinely and make efforts to change the bullshit.

2. Reverse psychology is for little secondary school kids

3. When your partner says you hurt them, don’t be hurt by them telling you that you hurt them. Acknowledge, listen, apologise and resolve not to hurt them that way again

4. When your partner hurts you, tell them they hurt you ASAP in the most peaceful, non confrontational way

5. Silent treatment is for idiots – I used to be one. If you’re too angry or upset to talk, simply say I’m too upset to talk right now, l’d like to be left alone for a while. I’ll let you know when I’m calmer.

6. Learn to control your temper – Dami this one is for you.

7. Love your partner the way they want to be loved in addition to how you want to be loved

8. Listen to your partner, especially if it’s their field. Eg- I defer to Odunayo on all things automobile, handyman things and human relationships. I noticed that when we don’t take each other’s advice, ó má ń di (it ends in) had I known.

9. Date night is important. Go to a movie – then a meal afterwards, talk about the movie, gossip about your friends, talk about your fears, the past, the future. Gossip about the people in the restaurant etc. Random kisses and hugs, bum slaps. Be spontaneous

10. Share funny stuffs, intelligent stuffs, sexual stuffs, any interesting stuff with each other.

11. Don’t try to shove your beliefs down your partner’s throat. Live and let live

12. Be kind especially when they’re in a place that is low. Encourage. Use your words more.

13. No one is a fucking mind reader – express yourself, use your words. You’re not a child. Talkkkkk

14. Practice honesty and empathy. There is a balance, trust me.

15. Accept that your partner might be smarter than you in some aspects, use their strength to your advantage and vice versa.

16. After talking a few times, allow your partner make that mistake, be there to comfort them when it doesn’t work out. “I told You” so can always come later.

17. Love is sacrificial

18. Be emotionally intelligent

19. Invest in your partner emotionally

20. Learn to say I’m sorry and mean it. Learn to be sorry. Don’t be a douche.

21. No marriage /partnership is like life. Take the good you see from others and implement.

22. Don’t ever compare your relationship with others, you don’t know what’s happening with them. Water your garden.

23. Be accountable with your time, whereabouts etc

24. Control your tongue (Dami, this is for you)

25. Sometimes, all you need to be is a listening ear, a shoulder /pair of boobs to cry on and a hugger, not a solution provider.

26. Don’t put your mouth in in-laws business

Lastly, pray for your partner, your relationship

Note:

Men trying to analyze women psychology, reasons and actions is hardly accurate. I will always advice, with women ask what they want however take time to study your partner’s mood because mood determines the validity of their response. With ladies there is no ‘one size fits all’ way of handling them. Number 7 amplifies this.

Dating Dami must have really been eventful for the writer. Some ladies are like that really handful but the truth is this kind of ladies when they love, the give love wings and protect their territory.

In all, these are beautiful pieces of advice you can share with your man as a lady and also pick your lessons too especially how men think. To all guys reading this, you can get the best out of your lady if you are more of a friend than a Man.

T

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