I saw this on Denrele Edun’s page and I said to myself, “this is actually spot on”. You Are Not for Everyone!
Society has played us to believing that there are certain ways to behave, to talk, to walk, to dress or to think so that everyone loves us and accepts us. That there are roles, lifestyles and clothings assigned to individuals based on gender. And that our life has to be in a particular order to be considered fulfilled. Ladies and gentlemen, this theory has failed us.
The reality is that those who dare to be different most often have been able to break this cycle and set themselves free from unfulfillment.
Impacts are not made by being perfect, infallible, rigid or being a conformist. You have to be radical, eager to mix things up and ready to damn consequences. Obviously, we can’t be loved by everyone (especially when you realize that what most people love about you is the fact that you are exploitable). Neither can you be accepted by everyone, even a day old child with a perfect record doesn’t get that lucky. So stop living an illusion.
Live for yourself. The first rule of living is “live to be happy”, nothing beats that! Do things that make you happy, some people’s feelings might be hurt in the process but if they truly love you, they will understand your reasons and they will celebrate you. Pleasing everyone (if it was possible) can only take one as far those people want one to go, and except parents, from my experience most people don’t want you surpassing them.
Note, don’t force yourself on people, else they will treat you like a piece of garbage.
If you haven’t met your man/woman… Just hold on, the right person will come, you are not for everyone
If you haven’t gotten your dream job, keep trying, you would find it, you are not meant for every employer
If some people mock you or even avoid you, don’t worry the right sets of people that will appreciate your person would come around. You are not for everyone
As sweet as honey is, I have seen people who don’t like it. Being likeable is a gift from God, some people have it but even at that not everyone would like them. I don’t know about you but I have met people for the first time and for no just reason I don’t like them. While I have also met people for the first time, who told me point blank “I just don’t like you”, and obviously trying to deliberately change their disposition would be a total waste of time and limited resources.
So you can’t live your life worrying about what people think of you because that would kill that creative and daring side of you.
A famous man once said, ‘A sure formula for failure is to try and please everyone.’ Some might say I built a career on doing just the opposite of pleasing everyone. -Dan Pena
So stay true to who you are, that’s the only way you can find true peace and happiness. Don’t pretend just so you can fit in. Don’t mask who you are so people can accept you. Don’t play small so you can be friends with close minded people. Don’t forgo who you are so you don’t end up being who you are not. Don’t try to please others at the expense of your own happiness. Be yourself, you are not for everyone!