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Twenty is the formative age for success, the further you move away from this age the more pressured you get to succeed. However, there are some life facts that you need to know as you approach this age if you want to be really successful. I implore you to carefully read this article.

What You Do Defines Who You Are (and What You Get Out of Life)

We’ve all got that friend – the one who is always talking big, like they’re going to start this amazing new company, write an inspiring novel or change the world. In fact we probably have more than one friend we hear constantly talking about big future plans.

The problem I have noticed with not all, but many of my peers (20-somethings) is follow-through. Ideas are everywhere, but motivation is seemingly nonexistent. Life doesn’t start tomorrow, life is happening right now. Successful people know this and are focused on achieving their dreams and goals 24/7.It’s more than an obsession and a passion, it’s what they are living. Instead of talking, they’re doing.

Does what you’re doing at your day job support your overall life goals?

Are you equally excited for personal projects as you are projects at work?

Do you actually have any personal projects?

Do you have a passion?

Are you refining/advancing your skills and knowledge of something daily?

Do you know exactly what you want in life?

These are all big questions. But I guarantee you successful, motivated and passionate people not only answered yes to all of them instantly, but they even knew the what and why as well without much thought. If you didn’t answer yes to all of these, it may be the day to rethink your life.

I’m 25 and know exactly what I want out of life and the ways I plan to achieve it. In fact, I’ve known for years. One of my peers told me, that “I’m lucky to have found something I’m passionate about.” I disagree with that. I’m not “lucky” to have found it at all, it was a combination of my unquenchable thirst for knowledge, my desire to pursue independent learning and the fact that I can’t stop reading and consuming information.

If you haven’t found it yet, that incredible spark and excitement for life, here’s the reality: it isn’t just going to randomly happen or fall into your lap. It isn’t the result of lots of money, nor is it the result of chance and circumstance.

It is the result of freeing yourself mentally and engaging your intellect. It is the result of breaking away from your peers and delving deeply into a niche. It is the result of focus, determination and motivation. It is the result of an internal drive that is unstoppable.

How do you find a passion? There’s so many engaging, interesting and ultimately fulfilling things to spend your free time (and your work time) doing. The question is how can you not find a passion?

Once you’ve found it, it’s amazing and indescribable – no one can sway your thoughts and your concentration. When you know exactly what you want in life and what really drives you, you’ll never again be bored, tired or unfulfilled. Seemingly boundless inspiration and motivation will be brought forward.

Friends have called me “because they are bored” and I never understood it. I’m not sure how it is possible to be bored, life itself presents infinite challenges and mysteries, but only finite amount of time to explore them. That’s why having a focus is vital – we’re all only given X amount of time to accomplish what we set forth, and you certainly cannot do everything.

People who spend their free time engaged in a passion are happier, more creative and more dynamic in their personality than those who merely spend their time as consumers of vapid entertainment pop-culture. Getting sucked into that is a waste of life and (in my opinion) leaves smart people unfulfilled. It’s essentially fast food for your brain – small amounts once in awhile are fine, but I can’t understand how people live off of it.

Do you come home from work and simply fall down in front of the TV where you spend your time until you sleep? If the answer is yes, perhaps you should consider living life yourself instead of by proxy. You’re going to wake up one day regretting how you spent your limited time in existence. A human lifespan is but a cosmic blink when you consider the age of the Earth, our galaxy and the universe. It’s precious, it’s rare and it is happening right now. To waste it is to give up the ultimate gift.

I feel like most of you reading here understand this, and if you do this post was not for you. It’s for everyone who is living life by proxy and for those of you who haven’t yet found a passion and embraced your true, creative self. It is not too late, you can do it.

Start today!

WRITTEN BY ADAM SINGER

PUBLISHED MAY 14, 2008

What You Need To Know At Twenty

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*Each second, is a new chance.*

Find reasons to go on! – Selahsomeone

“Each second, is a new chance”. I’ve heard these words before but now they ring differently. It’s funny that before when I heard them, they didn’t have the same impact. They didn’t make as much sense then as they do now. So I questioned myself, “what have I got to lose?” I am down already what choice do I have? Now, I’m have to act on these words like this is the best piece of advice in the world.

It is true I can’t change what comes next, I can’t change where the wind of opportunity will blow to, I can’t determine what nature has in store for the world but I can change how I respond to life, what I do next is key, a key in my own hands.

Each second, is a new chance. So I will leave the judgement to those that have given up. As for me, I’ve got living to do. A second ago doesn’t matter even if it was adverse. Because I have the next one to look forward to. And the next one after that, and the next one after that. All I must do, is dare to take another step, it is clear to me that giving up is not an option.

Behind the mysteries of life is also the mysteries of choice. Life throws its canon and I shield with my choices. Often times, it is not convenient but if i must survive, I have to make the tough calls. I don’t question the fairness of life because I know it is all in my choices of response to life.

Each second, is a new chance. So my head will stay in an upright position. Keeping my mind on the future, yesterday is meant to be built upon and not to be caged by; If I lose, if I win, I will always have something to build on. It’s all in the same circle of knowledge, wisdom and understanding. So in the end, I will be, just fine. And I won’t waste time judging myself because now I know better.

Each second, is a new chance.

Each second, is a new chance

A Little Adventure

An adventure is something challenging. An adventure takes us out of our ordinary lives. It usually involves challenging ourselves or trying out something new. The word ‘venture’ can mean to try something without knowing where it will take us, while ‘adventure’ has positive connotations. Though it may be challenging, an adventure usually makes us feel excited and energized.

There are many different types of adventure. It might be argued that even something that other people might think is ordinary is an adventure to someone else. If it makes us feel challenged and excited, trust me, it is an adventure. For instance, an adventure might be:

  • Climbing a mountain
  • Learning a new language
  • Learning new culture
  • Traveling to a new city
  • Going to the top of a tall building in the city
  • Going white water rafting
  • Going after your dreams against all odds
  • Doing something people consider “crazy”

From the above, I think you really should make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live with unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a life with no risk. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

If you want to get more out of life,  you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a more adventurous lifestyle that may first appear to you to be crazy but once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty. Get out of your abode, leave your comfort zone and hit the road, and I guarantee you will be very glad you did. 

But I fear that you will ignore my advice. But for some reason incomprehensible to me, you want nothing but to bolt for home as quickly as possible, right back to the same situation which you see day after day. I fear you will follow this same inclination in the future and thus fail to discover all the wonderful things that God has placed around us to discover. Please don’t bring my fears to reality, don’t ignore my advice.

Don’t settle down and sit in one place. Move around, be nomadic, make each day a new start to consolidate on yesterday. You are still going to live to see many days, and it would be a shame if you did not take the opportunities today is offering you to revolutionize your life and move into an entirely new realm of experience. You are wrong if you think Joy emanates only or principally from human relationships, God has placed it all around us, It is in everything and anything we experience. We just have to have the courage to try something new and worthwhile.

My point is that you do not need  someone to change your life for you, there is already a light to the path you know you must follow, It is simply waiting out there for you to grasp it, and all you have to do is reach for it. The only person you are fighting is yourself and your stubbornness to engage in something new.

Here are few of the things you stand to gain:

1. Mental health.
The excitement and happiness we experience during an adventure release hormones that are great for our mental health. Moreover, surmounting a challenge during an adventure is a brilliant way to leave us feeling positive about ourselves. Adventures give us a more positive attitude about ourselves and about life, all of which is just great for our overall mental health.

2. Expanding our horizons.
Trying new things or traveling to other countries for adventures really expands our knowledge and experience of the world. Sometimes, it takes an adventure to show us just how rich and varied the world out there is. We realize that our perception of the world is not the only one, and that there is so much more for us to see, do and learn. Rest assured, after your first adventure you will be hungry for more!

3. Building friendships.
Sharing an adventure with someone is an excellent way to strengthen your friendship. When you both experience those heightened emotions, and help each other to overcome the various challenges along the way, you develop a lasting bond.

4. Learning new strengths.
Sometimes it takes an adventure to teach you just how strong, clever or brave you are. All of us have hidden strengths that we do not always know about. And, it can take an unfamiliar situation to allow those strengths come alive. After all, if we simply stick to our ordinary daily routine, never challenging ourselves to try something new, how will we ever discover anything new about ourselves?

5. Making daily life richer.
Leaving our daily routine for a while to have an adventure means that we come back to our everyday life refreshed, and with a new perspective. After an adventure, our daily working day routine itself seems richer and more exciting, because our adventures have taught us to see the world in a new light.

Everyone needs to add a little adventure in their lives. What counts as an adventure is up to you. What was your last adventure? And, if you could have an adventure in the future, what would you like it to be? Adventures do not need to be costly – in fact, you could start planning your next adventure right now.

SAME ROUTE, DIFFERENT DESTINATION

SAME ROUTE, DIFFERENT DESTINATION

We all were born into life without a clue of what living entails or what lies ahead of us. As children, we familiarise ourselves with the environment and people around us. A child accepts the people who they see often but are sceptical when strange people come around. As one grows older, this attitude to get attached to the known and become cautious of the unknown continues to characterize our actions in life. However, when a known individual becomes distant due to certain reasons, we sometimes hold on longer than we should because of the emotions which becloud our judgements.

The life in which we were born is rich in itself. It teaches us how to live in it through lessons that may be subtle or obvious. Take for example, you embark on a journey; whichever medium you choose to use, you meet people on your way. During the period of the transit, you may engage in discussions with people on topics helpful to your journey. If there is a cause to take some decisions about the journey, you tend to trust the opinion of your fellow commuters rather than someone without the experience of the journey. 

Nonetheless, once you arrived at your expected destination, you alight from the transportation medium. With little or no thought about those whose company you have enjoyed for hours, you continue to proceed in the achievement of the purpose for the journey. If you met anyone exceptional during the journey, you most likely keep in touch with such person.

The above analogy explains life though we rarely see the connection. Being on the same bus or flight to a city does not mean you must end your day with those people. Everyone you meet in life has got a time span to spend with you. Either we notice it or not, it is impossible to stay around the same set of people all your lifetime. You may be on the same route but your destination might be different. Hanging on longer than you should to your vehicle of transit will make you miss your destination and hence, forfeit the essence of your journey.

Those whose virtue have not completely rubbed off on you will still be on the same route with you as you advance in your journey. Twenty friends cannot play for twenty years because they all have different scripts and scenes cut out for them by life.  A scene needs to end for another to begin. As emotional as it may feel, it is the only way to a successful and meaningful drama.

Understanding when to keep on and when to quit a friendship is essential in order not to expend one’s energy in wrong areas. It keeps you abreast on who should feature in the next stage of your life. Not everyone you admire should remain in your circle. Some people should leave for some reasons or after a season. Others should always stick around because their contribution to your success in life is recurring; so says a woman of wisdom. 

It is not always an act of pride when people choose not to fight over some relationships. They may have realised that it is expedient to let go. Nevertheless, know your route and your destination and always identify those who should join you or leave at every juncture!

Talent Development; Need for Positive Environment

​Talent Development; Need for Positive Environment

Good day! I’m Nicholas, in case you’re just reading this for the first time. I welcome you to a new week and I congratulate you because God is set to favor you this week. Always remember He has plans for you and me.

Today, I will be espousing more on the need for a positive environment for our talents to thrive well. We’ll be digging deeper on the need for a good environment for our talents.

If you’ll ask me how much environment matters, I will say very much. Considering where I spent my early days as a kid, I appreciate the power of environment. I had a good family upbringing, but the question is the people I met apart from my family weren’t the best so to say. I learnt abusive words as early as possible, I learnt some weird things as early as possible, I mingled with various kinds of people with various strange mentality. It affected me until I changed my environment, that happened when I left our community for medical school. However, note sometimes the environment we need to change isn’t our physical environment, some of us need to change ourselves and the community of our minds.

It’s impossible to grow without changing, but it’s possible to change without growing. 

It’s impossible to grow without changing, but it’s possible to change without growing but there are some things you can’t change, as poor as the community I grew in was, I couldn’t change it. It’ll definitely appear in my autobiography, you’ll definitely see Ajegunle. That’s one of the things we can’t change. You cannot change where and when you’re born, you can’t change your parents, you can’t change your height or DNA; but even though you can’t change all these, you can change your attitude about them. You can do your best to live with them. Your parents may be illiterate, but you must learn to live with that. Your family may be poor, but you must learn to live with and aim for a better family. What I’ve learnt in life is, we can always contain everything that comes at us (we can choose how we want to respond to whatever life throws at us). They can’t expand, but you can expand; you can be bigger!

The first step in changing your environment now is by assessing it. Change for the sake of change is not going to help you . If you’re going to make changes, you’ve got to make the right ones. That’s why you must start by assessing your current environment and why you want to make a change. The first sign of an environment that needs a change is an environment where you’re always at the head of the class (mates). If the environment your talent is currently is that, you need a change I must say. If you don’t, you’re gonna use the whole of your talent as a mediocre, an average, the best of the worst and the worst of the best. I must say that you’ll enjoy it, but in the long run it won’t be best the best. You need an environment where you can be the smallest fish in the pond so you can learn. 

The other day I talked about curiosity, but this can only work in an environment where there are people better than you. I’m not saying you can’t be the best where you’re, but I’m saying winning every time is a sign that others you’re moving with aren’t growing and before you know it you’ll be affected, it’s a bitter truth. In my early days, I was often hailed as the best poet by my classmates because there wasn’t anyone that could write poem like I could, but as I moved out of that shell, I saw that environment isn’t the best. I saw other great poets, people that have got something to learn from. To keep on improving, you must be in a growing environment and a growing environment isn’t one where you’re always at the top.

You need an environment where you can be the smallest fish in the pond so you can learn. Winning every time is a sign that others you’re moving with aren’t growing and before you know it you’ll be affected.

After assessing your state, you must learn that changing the environment doesn’t stop there, to maximize our changed environment we need to change ourselves too. It’s like a seedling changing an environment for a richer soil. As much as the seedling needs a better environment, we must be sure the seedling is good too or else the farmer will see his efforts become futile. We need to change our environment from within to the outside. It’s a key. If you change  yourself without changing your environment, your talent will only be frustrated. If you change your environment without changing yourself, your talent will develop at a slower pace. If you do the two, your talent will develop at a faster pace.

 What I’ve learnt early enough in my life is that I can’t soar with the Eagles if I’m still playing around with the chicken. It’s almost impossible. You must look for an environment where you’re always challenged, where you’re often out of your comfort zone, where you wake up excited and where people are willing to accept change.

I have written about this, but it’s expedient that I do again. You need to change those you spend your time with if they’re not the right ones. Note, I didn’t say if they’re not the good ones, I said the right ones. Some people are good, but they’re not right for you at the moment. So when I’m in a look out for relationship, I consider right before good. Your talent can’t reach the highest, if you want to develop it alone, but again it must be developed with the right set of people.

If you change yourself without changing your environment, your talent will only be frustrated. If you change your environment without changing yourself, your talent will develop at a slower pace.

So now you’ve changed your environment, what’s next? You must be proactive! You must take initiative and challenge yourself. Now you’ve room to fly any height possible, but you must be intentional to fly. Now you’ve got people to learn from, but you must be willing to learn from them. Now you’ve an environment where change is acceptable, but you must be willing to accept the change. If we drop two small fish in a pond, I’m sure both of them won’t grow at the same rate.

Changing yourself and your environment will attract criticism. Some will say you’re proud, rude or an ingrate; but you must move on despite that knowing fully well that you’ve got to make those changes for your good. When I started changing friends in my life, I received so much criticism, enough to have made me stopped, but no I moved on and today I’m thankful to God for the changes I was able to make. Their opinions about you doesn’t have to become your reality.

Changing yourself and your environment will attract criticism but their opinions about you doesn’t have to become your reality.

So this week, start by assessing your current environment and why you need a change, and after that make the change and challenge yourself in your new environment. It doesn’t mean you’re leaving your neighborhood, even though it could mean for some. It may be tough my dear friend, but this is your talent, your life we’re talking about; you’ve got to take the guts to get out of the ruts.

Thank you.

By Aderinto Nicholas
A young medical student with the passion of reaching lives with Hope.

You Are None Of Those Names

You Are None Of Those Names

In life whatever name(s) people call us, can only become ours if we choose to answer to them.

Do you know you have to accept whatever name(s) you are called before it becomes your name? Whatever name(s) we answer to now became our name(s) because we chose to answer to them. If someone screams “Andrew!” in a hall filled with people, only those who answer ‘Andrew’ will most likely look in the direction of the screamer except maybe those who are curious and want to know who Andrew is. So also, in life, whatever name(s) people call us, can only become ours if we choose to answer to them. Little wonder, some people have gone ahead to change their birth name(s), when they don’t want to answer it anymore.

And because you are passing through a situation doesn’t make that situation your destination, you are just passing through! 

People may call you broke, loser, jobless, lazy, stupid, single, fat, fake and so on, these may describe your current situation but that still doesn’t make any of these your name. You decide what you want to answer to! And because you are passing through a situation doesn’t make that situation your destination, you are just passing through! When you decide your name isn’t any of those derogatory remarks and you begin to reinforce names you love to be associated with like success, smart, ambitious, special, winner… and reassure yourself on daily basis that you have all it takes to write your own success story, things will start changing for you.

There would be rocky parts but then you will also get to the smooth part.

You are blessed to have you however, this can only transform to physical blessings when you start believing in yourself.  None of those names people call you matter but the names you have chosen to answer. You have total control on what follows your “I am”, exercise this control and allow only positive words to follow your ” I am”. There would be rocky paths but then you will also get to the smooth path. Don’t be discouraged by now and don’t be taken back by what people seem to think about your life or situation, you will survive it, you are none of those ugly names, you are special and you deserve all the best things life has to offer. 

Because they say “you are” doesn’t mean “you are” (good or bad) but when you say “I am”, you have already set in motion what you want to become! – Selahsomeone

Are You Distracted?

Focus they say is when you keep your eyes on the prize; not the pains, the should haves, could haves, the yearnings, the feelings but your eyes on the prize. – Selahsomeone

Most people don’t reach their dreams because of two things; challenges and distractions. However, it is easy to think that what’s limiting us is our challenges but the truth is, we are already facing so much before we decided to dream, however distractions dress up as temporary comfort that makes us forget what we truly want. My mum would say “when God plans an open door for you on Friday, the devil opens something similar on Thursday just to stop you from attaining what God has planned”. Taking this into perspective, I think distractions are actually the doors opened on Thursday, that temporary comforts that stop us from soldering to Friday where the real open doors are.

Distractions can come in different forms; from sudden comfort to people’s distractions. Take these instances;

  • You desire to graduate from your first degree same time you bag your ICAN exam but to do this you have to devote much time to reading, however your boyfriend or girlfriend feels you don’t have time for him/her. So you end up dropping your ICAN dreams just to make time.
  • Your dream is to become a musician, artist, footballer, designer, comedian etc but your parents are putting pressure on you to quit because they feel it is a waste of time. Eventually you sacrifice your talent just to please your parents.
  • Your dream is to own your own business and after struggling to put some things together, a family friend gets you a high paying job. You suddenly get distracted by money and end up dropping your dreams just to become an employee for the rest of your life.
  • You desire to spend time daily to improve yourself and learn more about that dream of yours but as things would turn out, your new found love believes you guys ought to be on phone 24hours everyday. You end up doing nothing for yourself because you want to please your love. And so on.

        Distractions often come to us in form of known faces, people we can’t refuse and offers that seem too good to be true but if we desire to keep our dreams alive we must by all means put up good resistance to distractions. I am not saying we should put up a wall of defense against our loved ones, emotions or other opportunities, what I am saying is, we should be so focused that we know when to draw a line between what they want and what we want. 

        Most dreams have been lost to relationship, family pressure, people’s opinion, sudden comfort and other distractions. 

        Our dreams will most likely not make sense to others but when we achieve them people will want to identify with us, however, before this happens, we would have a lot to do. Most dreams have been lost to relationship, family pressure, people’s opinion, sudden comfort and other distractions. Many are silent victims living with regrets and thoughts of what could have been. Don’t get me wrong, some people actually want the best for you now however, only by following your dreams can you truly experience the best of both trials and triumphs.

        Do away with your distractions, as often as possible reassure yourself of what your dreams are. Understand the concept of ‘what you really want‘. When under pressure take some time out and reevaluate your stand and how far you have come, then make adjustments but don’t lose your dreams. Be about your dreams such that even the blind can see what drives you and the deaf can hear the sigh of your passion, this will keep most people away from trying to dissuade you or lure you to something else. Make it obvious what your priorities are, make room for what must be done no matter what, and when there is conflict of interest then your dreams should always come first.

        The world is waiting for the next big thing, it could just be you we are all waiting for, don’t lose your dreams!

        My A to Z of Motivation

        My A to Z of Motivation

        Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.

        Bradley Whitford

        A- Accepting: Accept who you are that’s the starting point, if you want to be a better you. Accept others for who they are, that way you expect less from others and more from yourself.

        B- Boldness: You have to be bold to stand out. There will be castigations,humiliations and reproaches but if you want to be outstanding, you must be bold enough to stand alone.

        C- Closure: Forgive and let go, life gets easier that way.

        D – Dream: Dream big…it will cost you nothing but it would give you everything you have ever wished for.

        E – Everyone is Special: Growth is all encompassing, if you want to grow, you must open your mind to people growing around you, after all everyone is special in their own way.

        F – Failing can be beautiful, so also is falling. Most times the best life changing lessons are learned after a fail. When you understand the concept of failing forward, success would eventually find you.

        G – Gratitude: Be grateful for what you have no matter how small or insignificant you think they are. They are someone’s prayer request and once they were all you could think of. Only a great fool is not grateful.

        Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.

        Norman Vincent Peale

        H – Help in any way you can. Give, encourage, listen, advise, inspire, challenge, help in every capacity you can, somehow, it will impact on your own life too.

        I – Information. Information is a key to success, gather it, analyse it and interpret it and most of all make use of it on time.

        J – Justice: Be just in everything you do and in all your dealings; with the young and old, big and small, rich and poor. Be fair as humanly possible, only do to others as you would expect them to do to you.

        K – Knowledge is power. Make it your job to know, make your findings, don’t rely on just the information you have but make efforts to know details. Knowledge will always set you apart from others in a highly competitive world.

        L- Live: Many people are alive without living, you start living when you start taking risks, it is nice to live simple but simple life seldom impacts on history.

        M – Miracle is all about faith. We all need miracle once in a while but the first miracle we need is faith. With faith comes courage and with courage comes possibilities.

        N – Nurture your talent. Everyone has something they are good at, it is just natural. Whatever yours is, nurture it and find a way to make people buy into it.

        O – Optimism: A pessimist sees it far worse than it is, a realist sees it for what it is but an optimist sees it for what it can be. Don’t be down because of what today holds, be optimistic and focus on what tomorrow has in store.

        P – Possibilities: If you can conceive it, then you can create it. Nothing is impossible with the right tools, information, knowledge and will power. No matter how difficult it is for people to believe it is doable, if you can dream it, then you can do it.

        Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.

        Pope John XXIII

        Q – Quality stands you out. Give your best no matter the situation. Don’t sacrifice quality for any reason, if it must be done by you, then it must be the best of you.

        R – Read: You can’t grow yourself without growing your mind. Read wide, expand your horizon and be without bounds. Information is the key to breaking new grounds.

        S – Sex like all matters in relationship is sacred.

        T – Time: Time waits for no one, don’t waste yours. The best time to start is yesterday, the second best time is now. Don’t procrastinate no matter how inconvenient it feels, if it must be done, then now is the time.

        U – Uniqueness: Be unique by being you. You are Special by creation, don’t become less by trying to be someone else. Be yourself, improve on who you are on daily basis and your uniqueness will speak for you.

        V – Valable relationships: People you know are to a large extent the measure of how far you can go. Build valuable relationships and value people in your life. Water your contacts and don’t wait till you need assistance before you reach out.

        W – Will power is that unstoppable force that keeps you going against all odds. For every fall, there must be a rise, even to grounds higher than before.

        X – X-factor: eXtra is all it takes to move from being ordinary to being extraordinary. Go a step further than the rest, push a little harder than the rest, give more than others will give, in everything you do, don’t forget the extra.

        Y – You are the most valuable person to you. Understand yourself, love yourself and appreciate who you are. You are your best shot at being successful, have faith in yourself and give yourself time.

        Z – Zeal is everything. You have to be able to push, even when you have got nothing to go on, you still have to keep pushing. It is called the never say die attitude.

        ​DO NOT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER

        ​DO NOT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER

        “You may not have a second opportunity  to make a first impression” suggests that you should always be at your best when meeting and interacting with people because it forma the basis of their perception of you. – Oluwatosin

        When people interact with you for the first time, they are often interested in your appearance, body language and cognitive level. They assess you based on some preset standards they have set in their minds. It takes a couple of ticks on the assessment chart before one is referred to as a cool guy, a responsible lady or an intelligent individual. As good as this impression may be, if subsequent actions do not align with the existing impression, the perception of the onlooker is reviewed and disappointment soon follows.
        Have you met someone before and he/she looks appealing- well cultured, good appearance, and so on but as time goes on, you begin to see traces of qualities that counter the one you got from your first impression? Then you wonder if you were wrong during your first encounter or you were unlucky to meet an impostor.

        Perceptions could also change positively. You could meet someone today and notice a major turnoff which changes for good with time. The person might have been undergoing a hard time as at when you met which accounted for his or her high-hat attitude. Drawing up all the conclusions in one day because of a set of actions or reactions may be too hasty. Real people are often imperfect; they are cool on several sides but they also have their not-so-cool attitudes. If you are faced with the odd side during your first encounter, you might not have the pleasure of enjoying their cool selves if you draw the line immediately. Give people time to prove themselves.


        On the other hand, total perfection is a pointer to pretense. When a person is always on time, no angry side, no provocative attitude, no weakness, be cautious- you might just be on the path of being taken in. Everybody is a work in progress. However, some people have accomplished more than others, there is no unit standard for assessment. Accept each person on a new page, allow them the chance to describe themselves and do not be hasty in judgements.

        10 Motivational Speeches to Keep You Going

        10 Motivational Speeches to Keep You Going


        “Life itself is a series of challenges, whether large or small. How do we habitually respond to daily life? Do we easily panic and become frantic, or do we stay positive and energetic? Do we make small problems big, or do we make big problems small and dissolve them into nothing? How we face the normal events of each day is generally how we will face the bigger challenges.” – Dr. TRK   Facing Life’s Challenges

        ​”Really, when I look back on it, I wouldn’t change a thing. I mean, it was so important for me to lose everything because I found out what the most important thing is … to be true to yourself. Ultimately, that’s what’s gotten me to this place. I don’t live in fear. I’m free. I have no secrets and I know I’ll always be OK, because no matter what, I know who I am.” – Ellen DeGeneres: Tulane University Commencement Speech (2009)

        “What I wish for all of you—the bad as well as the good. Fall down. Make a mess. Break something occasionally. Know that your mistakes are your own unique way of getting to where you need to be. And remember that the story is never over….” – Conan O’Brien Harvard University, 2000

        Fall forward. Here’s what I mean: Reggie Jackson struck out twenty-six-hundred times in his career — the most in the history of baseball. But you don’t hear about the strikeouts. People remember the home runs. Fall forward. Thomas Edison conducted 1,000 failed experiments. Did you know that? I didn’t know that—because #1,001 was the light bulb. Fall forward. Every failed experiment is one step closer to success.” -Denzel Washington: “Fall Forward” (2011)

        “What I’ve found is that difficulties come when you don’t pay attention to life’s whisper, because life always whispers to you first. And if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you’ll get a scream. Whatever you resist persists. But if you ask the right question —not why is this happening , but what is this here to teach me—it puts you in the place and space to get the lesson you need.” – Oprah Winfrey Stanford University, 2008

        You cannot let a fear of failure or a fear of comparison or a fear of judgment stop you from doing the things that will make you great. You cannot succeed without the risk of failure. You cannot have a voice without the risk of criticism. You cannot love without the risk of loss. You must take these risks.” -Charlie Day: Merrimack College Commencement Speech (2014)

        “As you grow, you’ll realize the definition of success changes. For many of you today, success is being able to hold down 20 shots of tequila. For me, the most important thing in your life is to live your life with integrity and not to give in to peer pressure to try to be something that you’re not, to live your life as an honest and compassionate person, to contribute in some way. So to conclude my conclusion, follow your passion , stay true to yourself. Never follow anyone else’s path unless you’re in the woods and you’re lost and you see a path and by all means you should follow that. Don’t give advice, it will come back and bite you in the ass. Don’t take anyone’s advice. So my advice to you is to be true to yourself and everything will be fine.” – Ellen DeGeneres, 2009 Tulane University

        “Most people don’t want to try something new, yet they want to experience change in their fortune, they don’t want to leave their comfort zone yet they want to attain new heights, they only want to work when they feel like it yet they want unlimited access to the good things of life… Unfortunately life rarely works that way” – Selahsomeone 2017
        “Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going [after being fired from Apple] was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.” – Steve Jobs Stanford University, 2005

        “You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.

        How?

        Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

        Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.

        Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

        Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.

        Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

        Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each together.

        Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be pave.

        Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find time. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings!

        Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.

        Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.

        Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.

        Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way. “ – Bryan Dyson, the former CEO of Coca Cola, as a commencement address at Georgia Tech in 1996.