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Do Whatever It Takes

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Do Whatever It Takes

Your life, with all its ups and downs, has molded you for the greater good. Your life has been exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the current moment. And every moment of your life, including this one right now, is a fresh start. If you have the courage to admit when you’re scared, the ability to laugh even as you cry, the nerve to speak up even if your voice is shaking, the confidence to ask for help when you need it, and the wisdom to take it when it’s offered, then you have everything you need to get yourself to a better place.

Ordinary people choose the way of I cannot do it; successful people choose the way of I can do it. I think it is time for us to start giving certain words their proper meaning. An example is the word “impossible”. Impossible doesn’t mean it cannot be done, it only means it is yet to be accomplished. Until this is done, man will continually live in the illusion of inability and hopelessness. Provoke your inner energy; Challenge yourself and you will achieve amazing things. Be your biggest competitor – challenge yourself each day to be better than you were yesterday. A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes hard work.

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. People who lack the clarity, courage, or determination to follow their own dreams will often find ways to discourage yours. When you change for the better, the people around you will be inspired to change also….but only after doing their best to make you stop. Live your truth and don’t EVER stop.

Whatever you do, do with determination. You have one life to live; do your work with passion and give your best. Whether you want to be a chef, doctor, actor, or a mother, be passionate to get the best result. Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe. You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.

You cannot let a fear of failure or a fear of comparison or a fear of judgment stop you from doing the things that will make you great. You cannot succeed without the risk of failure. You cannot have a voice without the risk of criticism. You cannot love without the risk of loss. You must take these risks. I just got one last thing; I urge all of you, all of you, to enjoy your life, the precious moments you have. Nothing great could be accomplished without enthusiasm, to keep your dreams alive in spite of problems whatever you have.

Quote References

  • Spencer Chapman
  • Vivek Anandhan
  • Andrew Effiong
  • Mohammed Sekouty
  • Kaoru Shinmon
  • Albert Iyangbe
  • Calvin Coolidge
  • Steve Maraboli
  • Alia Bhatt
  • Ralph Marston
  • Gail Devers
  • Charlie Day
  • Jim Valvano
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My Fear When I Was Young

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My Fear When I Was Young


When I was young, I was afraid of the dark, so scared “ojuju” would pop out of the dark and carry me away. Sometimes, i could have sworn that i saw an image forming in the darkness. Often my mum had to leave the lights on till I finally fell asleep. I remember the first time I was forced to sleep in the dark, I was about 8 years old then, every sound got me on the edge, I barely got a wink till morning but then the following night it got a little easier, on and on until I got used to it and finally overcame that fear.

Now when I look back, it is quite funny because I know better now, no “ojuju” in the dark, in fact those images I thought I saw, were all in my head, a creation of my fear. So when my first son said, “daddy, I can’t sleep in the dark”, I just told him “son, go and sleep nothing is going to hurt you”. Gradually, he too is overcoming this fear because some how he trusts dad, just as I learned to trust my mum. 

Fear is something we out grow and then grow back into. I am sure we can all relate to this story while growing up but do you know as adults we still suffer same fears? Fear of what lies in the (unknown or new territory) dark . We might have outgrown the fear of darkness, so to say, but some how we still suffer other fears that are just in our head. People are afraid of so many things that you begin to wonder how much fear is depriving the world. You hear statements like what if I try and I fail, what if I succeed and I can’t cope with fame, what if I don’t fit in, what if I can’t learn, what if I don’t  find the right partner, what if I find the right partner but I am not right for him/her, what if my plans don’t work, what if my plan works but people don’t like it… Sadly, when we outgrow one fear we somehow find a way of growing into another one.

Most of us have very beauty dreams, vivid and clear paths and line of actions but we never do anything about them. We don’t lift a finger to fulfill these dreams because we are scared of failing. We are scared of what all the negative statistics have to say, we make up more reasons in our head why it won’t work out than even the statistics suggest. We create our own “ojuju” that stops us from leaving our supposed comfort zones where all the lights are on just to give us temporary relief. The image of failure seems so conspicuous, it stops us from venturing into our dreams and aspirations.

Like the darkness we so much feared when we were young, these fears are unreal, just something in our head that we need to get rid of by taking actions. Don’t wait till you are all grown up and then you realize what you could have become. Don’t fill your old age with regrets and thoughts of what could have been. Overcome your fears by taking actions. Whatever seems unachievable, take the first step by attempting it, you can’t know if it is possible if you don’t give it a try. Like you now tell your younger ones, “stop being afraid there is nothing in the dark”, I am telling you too, ” stop being afraid, there is nothing to be scared of in following your dreams”. You cannot fail, you cannot lose, you cannot regret it because you can do it and there is nothing stopping you.

​CHANGING INABILITY TO ABILITY

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CHANGING INABILITY TO ABILITY
It is true that every normal being posses the ability to do one thing or the other, but do you know that despite the possession of this ability, there are some factors that want you to throw your ability or abilities as the case maybe into the a flaming incinerator.  

The greatest factor is FEAR! Most people give room for fear in the best place of their life, and this would make them shrink themselves; this would make them stop the rolling ball from doing what it was created to do, just to avoid what might happen in the process, such as rejection, condemnation etc. There are a lot of things that could happen if you take a stride, you could slip, the sole of your feet might get punctured by a nail or you could even hit your leg on a stone, but if you consider these possibilities strongly, you might never take a step, you might never move in life. 

My dear reader, there is a clear difference between “I wish I did” and “Thank God I did” and the ball is in your court to choose which statement you want to end your life with. 

The second factor is Low Self-esteem. Low self-esteem is when you see little of yourself, when you think the ‘top’ or the ‘best’ is not meant for you, Zig Ziglar said “It is only when you start seeing the ‘good’ in you, that’s when others will see the ‘best’ in you”, that is, you are in the position to set the ball rolling by never looking down on yourself. 

“It is only when you start seeing the ‘good’ in you, that’s when others will see the ‘best’ in you”

Lack of Boldness: This is the school mother of FEAR, the inability to express your feelings, emotions, mind set, thoughts, ideas and all sorts. Now tell me, you have a talent given to you by a Supreme Being, and the next thing you could do is to give it all up because you are shy? No, that’s not right, you can’t do that. Why not start reading motivational books and articles online, on the grave and unredeemable consequences of not been bold as brass. Watch T.V shows sharing outmost experiences on the regret of not having faith in themselves when they were supposed to be. 
These three factors works hand in hand, when you don’t allow them, no one can drag you down, be like the Aloe leaf, and stay strong. I am sure you should be able to change your inability to ability; it is just a matter of determination and focus.           

Post By Guest Writer

Kajopaye Gbenga

http://www.literaryking.WordPress.com  

Worry Is A Waste Of Time

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Worry Is a Waste of Time

Worry is one of the most ineffective pastimes we can indulge in. Jesus Himself asked, ‘Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?’ (Matthew 6:27 NLT). Worry is the assassin of rest and relationships. It stalks us and hijacks our minds. While we may continue to function publicly, there’s a sinister force lurking within us.

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Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.’ Philippians 4:6 NLT

This enemy called worry disorients moods, destroys creativity, and depletes your sense of completion which comes from within and can’t be achieved by the acquisition of things. Why do we wrestle so much with things we can’t change?

One pastor writes: ‘It took me years to realise that when I went to bed I shouldn’t go with half my day wrapped around my head. I wrestled all night with issues that couldn’t be resolved until morning anyway. I can’t tell you how many days I went to work feeling like the worn heel of an old shoe. I was less effective, tenser, unable to perform to full capacity, and it took its toll on my relationships.’ Can you relate?

Here’s God’s prescription for worry: ‘Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus … Fix your thoughts on what is true … honorable … right … pure … lovely, and admirable … things that are excellent and worthy of praise … Then the God of peace will be with you’ (Philippians 4:6-9 NLT).

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Today let God set you free from worry.
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By Fidel Afuda

What’s The Use of Knowledge?

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What’s the use of knowledge?

What is the use of knowledge that is not applied? In my experience as a counsellor and motivational speaker, I have met so many people, of different colours, background and academic orientation but the most unbelievable sets of people are those that seem to be very vast yet seem not to be so wise. These sets of people usually know the answers to all questions, they are knowledgeable in many fields of life and have overwhelming experiences but they lack the wisdom it takes to harmonize these things. Knowledge without wisdom is pointless.

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Wisdom is not about the things you know or how vast you are, wisdom is simple the application of the knowledge you have acquired. What use is a knowledge acquired which doesn’t affect or manifest in our lives or decision making. It baffles me when I see people leaving major decisions that affect their lives to chances and hearsays. It is easy to have big dreams and talk sweet lives but living requires wisdom and taking calculated risk.

The Bible says, “a fool says in his heart there is no God…”. A fool can be a professor, a scholar, rich man or perhaps an impoverished person but so long as knowledge accumulated is not applied, that is foolishness. If you see a bad situation you most likely know the likely outcome, wisdom presupposes you avoid or prevent it but when you are forced into a bad situation then you can always count on miracle to get you out of it. The availability of choice implies the use of wisdom while foolishness effectively neutralizes the possibilities of miracle.

What you have seen, what you have heard and what you have read are what are summed up and called experience. They don’t count for nothing, they are advantages or edges circumstances have bestowed on you to help you outwit most of life trials. Some say “it can’t happen to me”, maybe or maybe not, but believe me, if you walk into fire, there is 99% guarantee you will get burnt. Rules are the same, if you act foolish you will be called a fool. I am not disputing miracles but I also know it is wrong to tempt God by deliberately walking into a trap.

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Do not waste the knowledge you have acquired by just storing them without putting them to use. Let your every step be guided by the experience you have gathered over time. Make your goals your guiding principles when taking life’s important decisions. Know that you can’t live life counting on luck or chance. Plan with what you have even though you are hoping for something bigger. Focus on what is real but know that because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Listen to learn and not for argument sake and in all things don’t don’t forsake wisdom.

Broke Can’t Be Happy

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Broke Can’t Be Happy

The ultimate goal of every individual is happiness, though definition of happiness may differ from one person to another. However, as far as I know, one of the factors that can hinder happiness is being broke. I have heard few people say their happiness is not dependent on availability of money and I agree with them. Availability of money doesn’t necessarily mean happiness but when you are Broke (absolute lack of money to meet immediate needs), no matter how religious, contented or hopeful you are, it is hard to be Happy.

I am not about to tell you how you are going to get rich overnight, neither is this a get rich quick scheme nor means of evoking the spirit of money. However, I believe that if you can work based on the factors I am about to point out in your life, things will turn around for the best.

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Here are 7 reasons why you are broke almost all the time.

1. You have too much idle time
You have too much idle time on your hands. Your time is not well invested in productive activities. You sleep all day, hang out with friends, hang around cybercafes, stay online without real business there, you are the official mascot of the newspaper stand etc…these are time killers. You should realize that every second is valuable, some people get value for them and you should do same too.

2. You are scared of trying something new
Fear is the culprit of many troubles we go through, little wonder the book of life kept saying “fear not”. If you do not act, you can not actualize, no shortcuts. Waiting for a perfect time is just a perfect excuse to be a perfect nothing. I have read through people’s success stories and I have not found anyone successful with a perfect start. You want to stay in your comfort zone, where you and I know nothing works because you are scared of failing. If you see where you are as your ground zero, you will realize you can’t fall further than that.

3. You think everyone else is responsible for your predicament but you.
Everyone is responsible but you; your father, your mother,  your friends, siblings, employer…everybody but you. I use to blame too, until I realized it was robbing me off improvement; places I ought to improve, I kept thinking someone else should be responsible. Even when it is obvious that others contributed to the failure, your focus should be YOU; “what could you have done differently?”. Responsibility is credibility, without assuming responsibility, it is hard to be in credit.

4. You are busy waiting for opportunity
Opportunity they say comes but ones… though this axiom has been faulted on several occasions but the reality remains opportunities are scarce resources with numerous suitors. If you keep waiting for it, you might grow old without a knock on your door. Our life is an open door and when you’re not alert opportunity will “coming and go out” without you knowing but when you are all out for possible opportunities, you can’t miss it. “You don’t wait till the iron gets hot before you strike it, you keep striking till the iron gets hot.”

5. You haven’t learned to separate need from want.
When you are not financially disciplined, it is hard not to be broke. We have needs and we have wants…you need water but you want alcohol, one is readily available and affordable while the other is a distance away and yet expensive… Your decision is the difference between being broke and being bloom. Apply this concept to all other choices you make on daily basis, ask questions like; do I really need this? does my survival depend on this?  No doubt want to someone might be a need to another. To a student having a car is a want but to a commercial driver it is a need. So you need to know where each item fits in your own life.

6. You do not re-invest
You are expected to re-investing at least 10% of your income … Salary, profit, gift, allowances etc, but you do not re-invest. Life is in seasons…planting and harvesting seasons, for instance. If you do not plant, I need not tell you there won’t be anything to harvest. Planting includes saving for rainy day, investing to have other streams of income, giving to people and giving to satisfy your religious convictions. When you fail in the act of planting, the act of harvesting will fail you and being broke becomes inevitable.

7. You don’t believe in yourself.
You are not convinced you can do anything good. All the first six reasons boil down to this, if you do not believe in yourself, you can’t even make efforts to make things right. If you are a pessimist, if you don’t have hope, if you don’t believe you can be productive, if you don’t believe you can make it, If you can’t have faith in yourself then hardly can anything work. You have to overcome this before you can embark on making things right with your finances and your life.

I know you are probably thinking of a shortcut or something that won’t work you that much; like winning a jackpot, lottery or getting free huge sum but here is the bitter truth, even if you hit the jackpot without fixing yourself and aligning with these 7 reasons, you will eventually break the pot and go back to being broke.

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I believe in you and I am sure many others do too, don’t let us down!