So sometime this year I had to run away from everybody and went for ‘vacations’ just to think, clear my head, regain my sanity. That’s what I always said when I was asked what the vacations were for. But really I was just running away from situations I thought I could not handle believing that when I came back they would all be gone, gone, disappeared for good. But life is never like that. Life is not for the cowards. When you run you will surely come back and if you eventually don’t come back, the world is the same everywhere else. The situations appear again wherever you run to, this time around clothed in royalty.

So for me, I came back because I had a lot of commitment here- actually I came back because of school. And guess what? Every single situation I left behind was waiting for me right at the entrance of the state. LOL…I would have never imagined that they had missed me so greatly. Damn, it was not easy but I knew I had nowhere to run to anymore- mainly because of cash, cause trust me guys, if I was bucked up I would have fled the country to start my life all over again. I did this twice and I always came back to face life in the face again.

An opportunity arose to run a third time and I am like ‘so young lady, you still have not learnt your lesson. Keep running, keep being a weakling, everyone sees you as a strong woman but you don’t believe in what they seem to see not to mention believing in yourself. After running off, you return back to the very same spot and start thinking of ways to solve them. Life would keep throwing shit at you and beating and hitting you from all sides if you keep running. Stay back, look life in the eyes and make her know who really is in control. Don’t let the wind of life toss you to every corner, stand your ground, have an anchor and show life how shit really is run.’

I never knew I could have such inner savage to talk sense into me. So I told myself, ‘Sharon, you are going nowhere because you are going to face all these and after that when you come out strong cause I know you surely will, you can have your vacation cause you deserve it.’ Guess what? I’m still facing those situations. I’m sure you thought I would write that I have totally overcome the whole stuff. Nope, not at all darlings but trust me I know it won’t be long anymore. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and boy-oh-boy ,I smell VICTORY.

Listen, when you finally decide to face life, don’t expect it to come at you any lesser than before, expect it to come around as a rushing flood. It’s going to throw various distractions at you just to deviate you and once you take your eyes off the prize you might just lose a great lot and find it difficult to come around. Eventually, you have to start afresh and I’m sure I can get a witness that it could be so freaking annoying, discouraging, and exhausting. You would feel like just giving up but please don’t. Never settle for opting-out because once you do you will eventually have to start all over with greater obstacles. Once you feel like opting-out be sure that you are making heads way and at that point, life is scared to see the precious gold that would be coming out of that fiery fire really pretty soon.

By Chidubem Sharon

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Why I Didn’t Give Up

Why I Didn’t Give Up

Hi Everyone, my name is Esther Damilola, first of all, I will like you to know I am not a writer, I am a computer scientists. I met Selahsomeone months back and I decided to share this, just to inspire others. I titled it “Why I didn’t give up” after re-writing my School certificate exams a couple of times. 

Many people tried to convince me, I couldn’t go beyond Secondary school and even close relatives started suggesting other alternatives to academics but I just wouldn’t give up for some reasons. Although repeating exams wasn’t my wish, on each occasion I could have sworn I had done my best but I guess life has its own ways of unfolding, however, I wasn’t ready to back down either. So I had no choice other than to keep going till I got the good result I was looking for. The major reason I kept going on was that I knew it deep down that the bad results were not a reflection of who I am, I am not a failure by any standard, however, if I stopped trying then I inevitably become a failure and that I wasn’t prepared for. I will decide how my story will end not some exams, examiners or examination board.

I also didn’t give up because I knew it was a decision that will affect the rest of my life. It has been my life long desire to work as an executive, designing programs that will touch on history, I needed higher education to get the basics to make my dreams come true. I have a desire to stand out amongst my mates, I want to be a leader and a person to be reckoned with. Passing the exams meant everything to me, my dreams and my future status.

Another reason I didn’t give up was my Mother. I wanted to make her happy, she is my all in all, number one amongst billions, my one and only, she was always there when everyone gave up, and I knew I had to repay her with a life of excellence. My mom is a faithful; even when my so called Father left us, she didn’t leave us to remarry though she was still very young. She gave up her feminine desires but she never gave up on us (myself and my two sisters) and I believe she deserves to be happy, celebrated and cared for. So keeping up with my dreams meant being able to give her all she deserves. God forbid but if I had to take the exams 50 times over, I will do it just to put smile on my mum’s face.

It you want it, you have to keep going till you have it! – Selahsomeone

Equally I wanted to prove some people wrong. I wanted to prove my dad wrong; he believes a girl child has little chance at success and for this reason he left us for another woman. I am determined to show him, I am more than an ordinary girl child, I am a person of dreams and desires, I can achieve whatever I set my mind to. I am a goalgetter and I would not give up till my dreams come true. Also to prove others who didn’t give me a chance wrong, relatives, past teachers, friends and other doubters. I didn’t give up and the truth is even though they were doubters, they became my motivation.
Finally, I didn’t give up because I wanted my life to be an inspiration to others. I want to be able to share my stories with people coming behind me and give them reasons to believe in themselves. I wanted the best of me to show forth, I wanted to be the light that leads the pathway and I still do, and going forward, I won’t still give up till I start to LIVE MY DREAMS. 

Dear readers, couple of fails are not the end of life, if you believe, you can make it. Please, don’t give up trying and i assure you, you will surely laugh at last!

When it is not your time?

When it is not your time?

Recently I had to talk a friend of mine, she was so much in tears that one can only imagine how bad she must have wanted the position, yes!  POSITION. Here’s what happened, there was this advert, a position at her workplace and by all account she was one of the favorites for the position; she has the qualification, the experience and “supposed” backing of some of the top shots in the organisation. So she scaled the test and was called up for the first interview but somehow her name was missing from the follow up interview. She was devastated, lots of questions were unanswered and people asking questions didn’t make it an easy pill for her to swallow.


I felt so much for her but then I have come to understand that when it is not your time, there is hardly more you can do, even though we are compelled to keep knocking till a door opens. I had to share a story with her, which I hope you too can learn from.

Some years back, there were four (4) friends who got appointment into a blue chip company, though the money was not what they all had hoped for, especially with the hype on the company but at least it was a good place to start. Eight (8) months down the line, the friends had grown tired of the job, they wanted something more and it was at this moment that one of them got an offer from a bank and he left, leaving the other three (3) behind.

The three (3) remaining guys did almost everything together, they were practically inseparable but as life would have it two (2) were moved to another department within the same organization. Even though these two (2) were still on the same pay with their third friend, it was a movement of convenience; less work, more prestige and more opportunities. It was like a “dream” move. This almost drove the third guy mad, questions like, “what is happening to me? who have I wronged? has God forgotten me? and so on. He was the best but he wasn’t chosen. He was now alone and feeling of dejection was written all over him. However, somehow he found the strength to keep pressing, than before he became more determined to move forward, applied for jobs as much as he could, studied as much as he could and in all, became more focused than he had ever been. In less than six (6) months, he got a new job with benefits more than what the other three (3) guys were earning put together.

It is not easy to accept situations especially when we know we deserve more than we are getting but when it is not our time there is little we can do but to keep improving on who we are so that when our time comes, we will be fully prepared for the task. Listen! when a door doesn’t open for us it is not because God doesn’t love us, often it is because He loves us so much that He wouldn’t allow us settle for less than we truly deserve. We may think what lies ahead is the best we can get but He can see further and knows there is something even better ahead.


Here is my take, when it is not your time

1. Don’t become hateful or rebellious
2. Don’t lose your faith in God or believe in yourself
3. Don’t give up because a door didn’t open, knock on other doors
4. Don’t stop improving on yourself, you are your own selling point, you have to keep getting more attractive
5. Don’t let what people say change who you are, Just keep faith.

My last words for anyone feeling this hurt right now are, “Don’t let few denials make you think less of yourself. In spite of what people might have said to you, in spite of the rejections you might have received, notwithstanding who it came from, don’t give up on yourself. Keep improving, keep getting better, keep knocking on the doors of opportunities and believe me, very soon a bigger door will open for you that would be beyond your comprehension”.


Value of Time

Value of Time

I know you have big dreams and sometimes it looks as if they will not to come to pass, I understand this feeling too but I want to ask you, “what are you doing with the gift of time you’ve been given?” You need to give yourself time by being diligent, you don’t have to rush things, yet you have to understand that every second counts. If you manifest before your actual time I’m afraid you might soon be forgotten and if you manifest too late you might never reach self-actualization before your time passes. How you value and use your time will greatly determine when and how your manifestation will be. You need to invest your time in productive things, plan your dreams, set goals, be determined and be consistently persistent.


Every man who has a dream will pass through two phases;
The NURTURING PHASE: this is the phase where you start nursing your dreams. This is where you have to get creative, imagining where you want be and how you can get there. You pen down all you need, to achieve your desired dream; the qualifications, the certifications, the experience, the set of people you have to relate with and the kind of places you have to be. Your resolve will be tested, your competence will be challenge and there will be difficulties. At this phase, you need mentor(s), people who can guide you and help you form. People who can curb your excesses, manage your youthful exorbitance and prune you to the right shape. Time is very valuable at this phase, if you don’t get all that is required of you to fulfill your dream in the shortest time possible, it will delay you from reaching the next stage.

The MANIFESTATION PHASE: this phase comes when your good dream starts to manifest. At this point, you must have acted on all you have planned, you would have failed a couple of times, but eventually you will start to get it right. Then people starts to celebrate you, recognise you and recommend you. This stage is where you stare at success, hold it in your hands and keep watch so that it doesn’t consume you. Life gets a little complex, decisions have to be made within the shortest time possible and there will be pressure from all angles. Time seems so inadequate, you want more than 24hours in a day and then you have to be in more than one place at a time.

There is something between the Nurturing and manifestation phase and that is “TIME”. The obvious truth is that your dreams will not come to pass in one day, like all good things, it takes time. One great investment God gave every human being equally is time, it is how productive your time is that determines how and when your manifestation will take place.  A lot of people spend their own time complaining, worrying and wallowing in self-pity,  all these are rocking chairs they don’t take people anywhere. Your time has to be invested productively and just because you failed the first time you attempted something does not mean you are a failure, you need to try again but this time smartly.


God is not a magician but a miracle worker, He doesn’t bless empty hands. He blesses the works of our hands and products of our labour. So stop being so lazy, you need to wake up and invest your time in something productive. Every great man is a good investor of time; Sportsmen spend time training, Artist spend lots of time rehearsing most times doing same thing over and over again, Entrepreneurs keep brainstorming to find new businesses to go into, inventors keep wondering what other problems can be solved profitably while other professionals invest quality time in research all in a bid to improving themselves… Successful people are never lazy because they understand the value of time.

It was Malcolm Gladwell who said in his book Outliers that “there are no geniuses, the world is filled with men who have dedicated their time in hours of practice to be a better person”. When you do same thing over and over again, you become a master or specialist at that thing. You have all it takes to succeed, stop complaining and start working.


Charles Darwin said “A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of time” you need to stop wasting your time and energy on irrelevant things, you need to get up and pursue your dreams. Your good dreams will definitely come to pass, it doesn’t matter how many times you have failed, you should always be on your toes and keep moving forward. It’s not time to cry or complain, it’s time to move on and get value for every second you have got. You are a success don’t settle for less!

I believe in you!

Omodara Oluwabunmi Onome