Please Don’t Judge Me Wrong

Please Don’t Judge Me Wrong

I have my own ways, however they may not be what you are used to but so far they have worked for me. I may not be where you think I should be but trust me, I am not where I used to be. I make my choices and I have learned to live by their consequences. I want to improve but on my own terms, I want to see my dreams come to life but at my own time. Sorry if I come to you as a disappointment but soon you will give testimonies of how you met me.

My methods are not conventional, I don’t use the orthodox approach, being a conformist is not who I am, I may come to you as being lazy but I still get the job done. I may not yield to rules or bind my actions to general principles but I live by my codes. Don’t judge me based on your ideals, you are not the standard I live by. Your truth may not be my truth because we have different facts about living. You and I have a different path to take and a different part to play, so because something works for you doesn’t make it a must for me. I am me!

Don’t judge my faith, my passion, my relationship or my lifestyle they are all part of me, my experience and the way I have come to terms with life. If you truly love me, lead by example and if I am convinced I might follow you. I am not inferior because of the colour of my skin, my background or my level of education, they are no limits to what I can become and I have embraced that fact, so just you know, I have big dreams too.

Please don’t judge me because I don’t measure up to what you expect, I am still growing and I believe I still have enough time to be who I am destined to be. I have my dreams, I have set my goals, I know my mission, they may not be as big as you might have imagined them but this works for me. They will grow as I grow, they will become bigger as I nurture them and maybe you would come to learn a few things too about starting small.

I love who I am, don’t try to change me, don’t measure me on your own scale of perfection. Don’t get me wrong, I want to be measured but against who I was yesterday and who I can become tomorrow. Just as I have accepted you for who you are, do same for me. Watch me take shape, I will stumble but I will pick myself up, I may have my heart shattered but be sure I will pick up the pieces and move on.

I enjoy it when you share your thoughts with me, I learn and I adjust some things about me but when you pass judgement, the lessons become lost in the resentment. I am like the proverbial square peg in the round hole, I may not fit in but I am indispensable, please don’t judge me wrong.

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Stand Out

This is a Keke Palmer (Akeelah and the bee) song that has so much impact on me.  It talks about self discovery, personality change and people seeing you for who you are and not what they want you to be (acceptability).

If you do not discover yourself, even if someone else does for you,  most likely you won’t understand and appreciate the value you carry. Your first assignment on the road to self actualization is self-discovery, if you can discover yourself, you can actualize your dreams.

“When you discover yourself then you would be yourself, but if you want to be like someone else, the best you can be is second best. It is time you stand out”

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Stand Out”

When I see myself in the mirror
Is this really me?
When I take off all my make-up
That’s the person I should be

See, I know once they get to know me
Then they’ll see what I see
I’ll make ‘em all believe the story
And I know that I’m the lead

I’m a bird that’s learning to fly now
I’m getting better everyday
And there’s no taking the time out, yeah
Cause I’ve got too much to change

I’m holding on to what’s real
That’s what matters to me
I’m still searching for me
I’ll search and do anything that I can
I’ve made up my mind
I will take a stand

On this day I’ll finally listen to what’s been calling me
All it takes is letting go of whatever people think of me
This way I’ll stand out and break away to be free
Happiness is what I can’t live without
It’s time to stand out