Posted in Author Omotayo, Motivational

Cross It And Move On

Cross It And Move On

​I am not a fan of Broadcast; be it BBM or WhatsApp, and those who have my contacts know I never respond to such, especially those that give ultimatums, “send to 10 people in 5 minutes and get unexpected miracle”, come on who are we kidding. Anyways, as much as I am not on the same wavelength with broadcasts, I still get to go through some and one of such is the one I want to share with you now. Kindly read and let’s learn together.

When I started using “PENS” in primary school, I often made mistakes. I would try hard to erase them. Sometimes I used chalk, but it later reappeared. So I began to use saliva, it worked but only to leave holes in my book. My teachers then used to beat me for being outrageously dirty. But all I tried to do was cover my errors.

One day, a kind hearted teacher called me aside. “Little girl, anytime you make a mistake, just cross it and move on. Trying to erase it would only damage your book”.

“But, I don’t want people to see my mistake and laugh at me”, I protested.

“Trying to erase it will make more people know about your mess, and the stigma is for life. The best way to handle your mistakes is to Cross it and move on. Don’t try to create more irredeemable errors by trying within your powers to erase or cover your earlier errors”

I am sure you have gone through it and you have learnt a thing or two but in case you missed some of the lessons, here are few I picked from this:


1. Making mistakes is part of growing, the only way not to make mistakes is not to try something new, unfortunately that’s a life time Mistake on its own.

2. You shouldn’t try to cover up your mistakes because doing so would lead to more mistakes, make your flaws more obvious and eventually make your life all dirty and filled with holes.

3. Don’t be afraid or shy to own up to your mistakes, because that’s the only way you learn from them. People may make fun of you, call you names and even make you feel less but you will be better for it.

4. Cross your mistakes because what is done is done. Forgive yourself and let the guilt go. Don’t carry the burden of your past mistakes, it will weigh you down and stop you from reaching new heights.

5. Move on with your life. Yes! You may have goofed but that’s not the end of the world, you have got to move on. Try something else, something new, mistakes are filled with lessons, lessons that can be used to build something more precious.

No matter how many times you may have made mistakes, don’t forget you are only human, mistakes are bound to happen, people who truly love you would still hang around, just cross your mistake and move on. Every new day affords you a fresh start, just like a new page, don’t  make it rough by focusing on erasing your past mistakes rather channel your energy in to moving forward and charting a new course for yourself.

Posted in Author Oluwatosin, Digest

EVERYONE HAS GOT A PRICE

Everyone Has Got A Price

We live in a society where people are quick to criticise other people, events or actions as long as they are not involved. Mind you, they may be engaged in something worse or close but as long as its not the present subject matter, they cast their stones on the accused without remorse. Most times, when situations occur, its sympathizers and critics fail to keenly ask themselves what they would have done if they were involved in it or if they could have acted better. If tides change and a critic of yesterday becomes a victim today, what should we expect?

In politics, it is observed that the incumbency is always inadequate at the time of power transition. However, when new individuals assume office, their flaws are seen in no time on either the same basis or similar ones with which their predecessors were criticized. My point is, everybody has got a price – you might never know yours until its the asking price. People are faced with situations daily. They have to make decisions, take actions and follow them through using methods they regard best to enable them cope with the situation. This is greatly influenced by their habits, personalities, etc. whether good or bad. When the result of these decisions become publicly known, a third party would learn from it by seeking better solutions to give him/her an edge if quizzed with such in the nearest future.

Passing judgement is easy anyone can do that but it takes compassion to understand while only the wise ones remember to live the lessons!

This develops one’s character and standards as the observer does not only seek for reasons to condemn but also unbiasedly analyses the situations and learns from it. People succumb to pressure when their charisma and values have been overpowered by it. Either in business or relationship, temptations will come. Being broke or lonely could be the asking price for a neighbour to do weird things. When exposed, they are castigated for not doing the right thing. Some people might even take out time to school them on how they could have acted better. If the same situation is redefined or intensified, these teachers mess up like no other. Wonder why? Its because they never learnt from the predicament of their neighbour; they only judged it.

In the days of Jesus, when the adulteress was caught without a defense, the perfect judge heard her case but denied her a sentence. I guess that was because He knew that a judgement on her would mean an equal judgement on everyone who was present either at that instant or a later future. We will all sell at a price, but what is your own price and because someone sold at a price less than we think we can sell doesn’t make them cheap, it only confirms they are human and they have a price.

We will all sell at a price, but what is your own price and because someone sold at a price less than we think we can sell doesn’t make them cheap, it only confirms they are human and they have a price.

Instead of magnifying people’s failures, show empathy and understanding, then you learn from them and step up your game. Increase the amount on your price tag so that on the bazaar of life, your shame will never be bought.

Posted in Author Omotayo, Motivational

​You are responsible 

​You are responsible learn to take responsibility

​In the end, we are responsible for how things turn out for us. Not the gods neither is it the unseen spirits, not fate neither is it destiny, it is simply the cumulation of all the choices we have made; one choice after another!

Recently, a friend of mine lost his job because of an obvious silly act, and when he was asked what happened his response was, “it was the devil” (I am sure the ‘devil’ must be so confused by now considering the number of accusations he/she gets daily). Then I simply asked him, ” did the devil make those choices for you?”. He wouldn’t reply, he just kept starring blank. This is exactly what most of us do, when things go sideways, we are so comfortable at passing the blame, while others use words like “God understands, it is well, I can’t kill myself etc.” to cover  up for their laziness and indecisions. Don’t get me wrong, supernatural forces are real but 99% of consequences are as a result of bad decisions; our own choices.

Too often we shy a way from taking responsibilities for our mistakes, bad choices and nonchalant attitudes however, we are quick to take credit for things we got right. Life works both ways, sometimes it is just so perfect while other times it seems like we can’t just get anything right, unfortunately, we have to be responsible for both outcomes. We want to ask questions like; why me? what kind of luck is this? who should I blame? When the most important question should have been ‘will I be able to bear the outcome of this choice?’.

I know most often wrong choices are as a result of pressure, pressure so powerful that our natural line of thoughts become distorted. Such pressures include peer pressure, greed, hunger, body desires, laziness, anger, jealousy, alcohol, drugs, cravings etc. but the truth is, no matter what is responsible for the pressure, when the did is done, no one sees the pressure and distortion again but the fact you made a choice and you must face the consequences; even where you don’t pay the ultimate price, the scar just never goes away. 

Now I am not going to assume, we all have equal self-control, in fact I agree it is often easier making a wrong choice than the right one, right decisions require more sacrifices and sincerely it takes lots guts but we also must have it in our subconscious that we will be responsible for the outcome of our actions. If it’s our action then the responsibility cannot be passed.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” – Jim Rohn.

To achieve your goals in life you have to take responsible for your actions and inactions, and you have to be disciplined enough to make right choices, even when they really don’t sit well with your immediate desires. Apologize when your choice affects others most will forgive your sincerity, when you give your words honour them because second chances are very rare, own your problems and be about solutions, and don’t feed your lazy thoughts by being inactive, even the devil needs an idle hand before the devil can manipulate.

It is your life and you are responsible for the outcomes, you hold the pen to write your own story, the moment you drop the pen others will pick it and write whatever pleases them for you. I don’t want that and I know neither do you. So don’t handover the control of you life to someone or something else, own your existence and make this one life that you have count for something good.You are responsible for your life, so learn to take responsibility!

Posted in Author Omotayo, Inspirational Stories, PsalmSelah

Jettison the Box

Jettison the Box

A group of four friends were discussing, and it all seem to revolve round insufficient salary. They all went on and on about how inhumane the company is and how insensitive the company has been to their situations. All of a sudden one of them, just kept quiet and kept staring at the most senior of the group. The most senior became curious, “why are you staring at me?”, then she answered, “you earn like three times our salary and you are still complaining, What else do you want?”. Then the most senior replied, “it is still not enough… 🙈”

In the same organisation that our four friends are, are also people who are on that same salary and yet are living very fine. People on similar salary scale who have their own houses and a very comfortable life style. These are sets of people who have chosen to think out side box, or better put jettison the box and explore other options of income generation. If you think it is impossible, you are probably using the wrong tools or the wrong approach. Nothing is impossible for people who are ready to think outside the box.

My question now is, how much is really enough? How much will you earn that will make you not complain about your job or working condition? In my few years at Speaking and Writing, I have come across many people and most of them, I can say, are not satisfied with their jobs for reasons such as salaries, working condition, boredom, lack of growth and work schedule. The truth I have learned therefrom is that most paid jobs are not satisfying. No matter how much you are paid, the likelihood that it won’t be enough is 95%. At first, say the first 6months, you may be satisfied but after that you will realize you need more; more money, more time, more respect etc. At that point, you become limited, boxed by conditions and responsibilities, and to break free you will need to think outside this box.

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Thinking outside the box
The first way people invite limitation into their life is by having one source of income. No matter what that source of income is it can never be sufficient to cater for all their needs. You need to find a way to open another source of income. It could be in business, crafts, services or networking… the bottom line is that you access another way of making money. The Jordan Rule suggests that the preferred number is 4 (four), at the point you are above poverty.

Try new things, boredom also makes one feel inadequate. When you try new things, you will meet new people with different views of life, there by making you see old things in a whole new way. People who do not complain about there problems often see their limitation from a whole new angle. I know of a friend who see every challenge he faces as an opportunity, he will say if I am facing this then many people are facing it too, so let me find a solution to it, then sell that solution to others. This friend is very comfortable now because he sells solutions to common problems.

Shift your focus from what your problems are to the solutions you desire. Often times many problem just require one solution and if you ask the right questions with the desired solution in mind, you will find out the problems aren’t has daunting as you thought. Albert Einstein once remarked, “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the answer, I would spend the first 55 minutes figuring out the proper questions to ask. For if I knew the proper questions, I could solve the problem in less than 5 minutes.”

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Don’t be too up tight about not making mistakes. Discovery as shown us that most inventions are product of mistakes and trial by errors. Trying to be safe will only leave you in that supposed comfort zone, which gives you cause to complain every now and then. Yes, you might lose some time, money, friends, possessions but you will also gain something and that is a better way to do it next time. Thomas A. Edison once said “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” and I’m the end he found one that worked. It took him ten thousand attempts to finally get out of the box.

Seek motivation from all avenues. One of the boxes confining most people is lack of motivation. A friend once told me, she is not motivated to do anything. As much as self motivation goes a long way, one most also round oneself with friends that have the thirst for achievements, friends who are also motivated to be successful and change the course of history. Read books, articles and learn about people who have moved from nothing to something. All these would give you ideas, widen your horizon and make you think beyond your current limitations.

I implore you to set aside your limitations today, see beyond your current constraints, keep your focus on where you want to be and do a reverse trace that is rather than trace from your problems to your desired solution, reverse the trend and trace from your desired solution to your problems. You will see things in a whole new way and your life will have a whole new meaning.

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Posted in Digest, Inspirational Stories

What I Would Do Differently

What I Would Do Differently
 
(Summary)
 
There is a popular saying that experience is the best teacher. This is true to some extent. But a wise man once remarked that though experience is the best teacher it is better if it is not your own experience. This is his message: There are certain mistakes you make in life that may put you in a shape where it is impossible to pick any lessons from them. In other words, the experience of another person is your best teacher! Pure wisdom!
 
If you have the willingness to learn, learn the lessons from your failure. Forget the details and try again the next time more intelligently. Your potential for success increases each time you fail. Therefore if you will truly succeed, you must not be afraid to fail. I will share with you some of the lessons that life has taught me.
 
1. Worry Won’t Solve Any Problem
“When you worry, you are paying interest on an overdraft you never took! Does it make any sense?”
 
2.Success Is Not A Day’s Job
“A tomato fruit can be ripened in two ways. You could spray a chemical on it and you would have a ripe tomato fruit overnight. You could also allow it to grow through the maturation process. Which one do you think would taste better? Drop that microwave success mentality. It won’t get you anywhere. Believe me!”
 
3.More Money Won’t Make You Rich Without Discipline
“I remember the words of the great evangelist, Billy Graham. He said, “When wealth is lost, nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost. But when character is lost, all is lost.” Don’t lose your character in the bid to make some small amount of money!”
 
4.Location Won’t Change Who You Are
“Archbishop Benson Idahosa once said that a lizard in Nigeria will not become a crocodile in America. He was trying to address a mindset that many of us in the third world have. We say that if only we could go to the western nations, if only we could go to the countries that look so beautiful in the movies and in the magazines, then our lives would change. That is a big lie!”
 
5. Success Always Comes With A Balance
“Zig Ziglar said, I believe that being successful means having a balance of success stories across the many areas of your life. You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles. How true!”
 
6.Accept People The Way They Are
“Mike Murdock once said that when two people are doing the same thing or acting the same way, one of them is irrelevant! God does not have a duplicating machine. He fashioned everyone of us differently. ”
 
7.You Need Your Body to Achieve Your Goals
“Someone once remarked that he wouldn’t want to become the wealthiest man on the hospital bed or in the graveyard. You need sound health to achieve God’s purpose for your life.”
 
That is it! Remember, knowledge in itself does not confer power. It is the knowledge that is intelligently applied that brings benefits to our lives. Don’t just read this report and throw it somewhere. Take each of the mistakes in turn and figure out how to avoid them in your life.

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