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Dear Friend,

I will not tell you I understand how you feel because the truth is only you understand how it hurts but this I can assure you, you are strong enough to make it through. Maybe you feel weak right now, maybe you are tired, a little hug here and a little love there may be all you think you have been living off for a while but I believe it only takes a strong spirit to have come this far. I know it hurts so much and you feel you can’t share, I can relate because your silence says a lot. I wish there is more I can do to let you see what I see in you.

I see is a Sun at dawn, even though it is still shielded by the thick dark cloud, soon there will come a time when nothing can stop its shine.

Most times life would not give us what we deserve, by a longshot we might be far from what we believe should be our reality or where we think we should be but that is life. The humiliation, the stigma and the “bitter after taste” might be too much to bear, this I understand is not easy but I also know many have come from the grave dark to grace the stardom lights.

Opera Winfrey was raped repeatedly for years, got pregnant and lost the baby. It seemed she was in that darkest place where no one can come out of but somehow she never gave up. Today, her light shines brighter everyday while guiding others to the light.

Joyce Meyer suffered abuse, molestation and rape from her own father for several years. She said those were her darkest hours but then she didn’t give in to those hours. God’s love found her and today she is touching lives with her story.

Steve Jobs was ‘fired’ from his own company ‘Apple’ by someone he hired but he didn’t give up, he didn’t let anger, feeling of being betrayed and quest for vengeance cloud his judgement. He built another company called NEXT and through that he was able to get back into Apple.

You may have been humiliated by people you trusted, people you thought you could count on through thick and thin but then life is a war with many battles, you may have lost several battles up till now but I can assure you the war is not over. So long as you don’t let depression bring the worst out of you, like a wounded lion, inch by inch, you can claw your way back into this fight.

It is easy to think revenge will set you free, this I will not stop you from especially when it seems your mind is all made up but here is a fact I know, no good thing comes from being vengeful. When you hold on to hate, revenge, or bitterness, it is like trying to smite someone who hurt you with hot iron rod in your bare hands, whether you succeed or not, you would have burned your own hands in the process. My honest advice, let it go! It won’t be easy but it is the right thing to do, let karma do her work and you concentrate on building your life a piece at a time.

Death may seem a way out, but suicide is for cowards. The brave would rather die fighting than commit suicide. You are brave my friend, I see so much life in you, even through the thick cloud, I believe your Sun will still get its turn to shine. I know you probably expect more from people but there is so little anyone can do, honestly. As much as I want to assure you things will be alright, there is just little I can offer you but my words. People may seem less concerned but that is not totally true, there is more than meets the eye; most people are also struggling with things they would rather not talk about, yet they wear the smile of ‘all is well’. However, after all said and done, never forget to reach out. It is easier to fight life’s battles when you have someone to rub minds with.

You are not alone in this struggle. It is a phase and it will pass. It is okay to be confused, it is human to feel insecure and unsure, these only remind us that we are not perfect; and nobody is perfect. You can ask questions or just do it anyway. Don’t give up on yourself on the account of how life has treated you, remember only the test of fire makes a fine steel. I believe in you my friend, I believe your light can still find its way through this thick cloud. Your past don’t define you, you are wiser, you are braver, you have all it takes; dig deep!

Letter to My Depressed Friend

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Your Time is Your Life

Your Time is Your Life

Time, not money, is your biggest asset in life. You need time to invest in relationships (with yourself and your family) or to chase your passion.
“Think again” if you are still trading off time for money. Let your money work for you. You don’t work for money. That is exactly what Financial Freedom is… – Manoj Arora , From the Rat Race to Financial Freedom

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There are 24hours in a day but you can have more than 24 productive hours in a day. There is a difference between normal hours and productive hours. One day in productive sense, is equal to the number of hours you make use of that actually impact on your life before dusk turns to dawn. The rich understands that Time is their most valuable asset and what they do is to hire more hands (that’s buy more time) to get the most from a day. The cheapest form of this can be seen in networking and marketing.

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Take for instance, a man who sleeps for 10hours, eats and have fun for another 10hours then uses only 4hours for something productive, that means in a 24hour-day he only gets 4 productive hours. On the other hand, a young entrepreneur, sleeps for 6hours, eats and have fun for another 6hours, works for 12hours, then hires 4men who also work 9hours for him, effectively he will be having 48 productive hours in a single day. Now you understand why the first man is barely getting-by and the second man is living large.

Some have mastered the use of time that they actually make money per second. Mike Adenuga gets money for every second you spend on a Glo line, that’s your time working for him. For every minute you spend on Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg gets an alert, your idle time working for him. For every hour spent at a football viewing center, the viewing center guy is counting cash, your time making him rich. If you are employed, your employer hires you first to add your time to his time, then maybe for your skills to make you efficient. Your employer can’t be everywhere at the same time hence because of this limitation, he puts a value on your time and buys it off you. Don’t get me wrong, it is nice to have fun, get employed but it is also fair that you understand that your time is precious and more valuable than you know.

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The value of time is best appreciated if you put it to use. Better put, the worth attached to time depends on how one translates every second to money (earning ability). The truth is, no employer will pay you the true worth of your time, no matter the value placed on it, your time is still a part of your life that you can never get back. This is why it is saddens me, when I sees able bodied young men waste away their time.  Some go as far as asking other friends, “what can I (we) do to kill this (time) number of hours?”, they conveniently murder part of their lives.

Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of. One man gets only a week’s value out of a year while another man gets a full year’s value out of a week. – Charles Richards

Your time is your life, don’t waste it. Your time is your greatest resource and most undervalued asset, be careful the price tag you put on it. Don’t waste your time on unproductive ventures, rather see how you can increase the number of productive hours you have in a day. Put your hours to use, invest money in them and let them work for you. Even if you have to offer your service to someone who can afford them, make sure you buy others’ time that you can afford and let them work for you too, that way you end up with more. Every tick of the clock, that’s a part of you ticking by, never let it go to waste.

For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again. – Eric Roth , The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay

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