Embrace Who You Are

Embrace Who You Are

Sometimes, however, there’s no one around to give you that hug you need. When you’re having a bad day, experiencing some sort of pain, or simply craving a bit of affection, why not give some love to yourself? … Mimic the pressure that you feel when you get a reassuring bear hug.

There is so much to you than meets the eye. True, you may not have figured out all about yourself but you can still build on the little you know. Don’t let people shut you down just because they don’t like the way you speak or your kind of ideas. Don’t let people put you down because you are not what they expect. Don’t shrink just because you want to make someone feel comfortable around you. Don’t become someone else because someone close does not like your kind of person. It is who you are, embrace it and make the best of it.

You have to stop apologizing for who you are. You can’t keep denying what your passions are, no matter who is misunderstanding what matters to you. You should be your own number one fan, no one should love you more than you love yourself. Your line of thoughts may seem very odd, don’t be shy to stand by what you think is real, be proud of your views. You may not have as much insights as others do but that doesn’t mean you are not capable of something more meaningful. There is a You in there, embrace it.

You can learn, learning is not beyond you. You can improve on your current self that is the idea of living but never let anyone take away your values and what you believe. These are your identity, fight to keep them, they are who you are, protect them with your life. You are special never let anyone tell you otherwise, even when people fail to see why, never doubt yourself. They will surely come around, each one bearing gifts when you fully form.

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Love yourself, no one will do that right for you. Don’t let your head down less others will look down on you. Humility is good but do it with pride, self-belief, self-love, good self-esteem and unshaken desire to excel in all things. You are your own greatest ally, cast away all doubts and trust your instincts, listen to your heart and pay close attention to your mood. They are all part of your making, even when your eyes fail to see they will keep you safe and on track.

Make it all about you, when you learn to love yourself as you should, loving others won’t be a problem. This will impact on your friendship and relationship; it takes a complete you to complement another. You have got so much within you; talent, gift, wisdom, thoughts, passion… loving yourself is all you need to amplify all these. Don’t fail the You inside, embrace who you are and watch life get less complicated.


The Big Question; “WHO ARE YOU?”

The Big Question; “WHO ARE YOU?”

When I was much younger I never liked myself. I really wished Omotola Jalade was my mother, I felt if she was my mother then I would have been so beautiful and popular.  My legs were not straight, they were actually curved (bow-shaped) which made my classmates especially the boys tease me, they called me “open bracket close bracket“. Each time I was teased, I cried and hated myself more and sometimes wondered why God made me like that. I wished I was somebody else, I knew I had potentials in me but I was scared to use them. I became self conscious, timid and shy, I lost my self confidence. I became defined by what my classmates called me, I was lost in the shadow of abuse and people’s opinion of me. I was lost because I don’t know, who I was.

Like me when I was younger, many of us have lived our lives in the shadows of friends and allowed people to define us that we don’t really know who we are. Let me ask you the big question; Who Are You? ….take few minutes to think about this.


I’m not just asking you what your name is or who your father is, I’m asking who you really are on the inside? People can say anything they want to say about you but you have to decide what you choose to believe and the name you choose to answer to.

You need to start seeing yourself the way God sees you. When you are seeing pains He is seeing gain. When it seems like a test, God is preparing you for your testimony. When you think you are a failure, God is hoping that you realize that to succeed you must have failed, except if you have never tried something new. When you see hurdles, God sees an avenue to cuddle you and remind you, He is forever faithful. God is too busy to create a nobody, so, if He has invested that much in you then you are not stupid or dumb, You are special my friend. All you need to do is ask Him to help you see yourself the way He sees you. There is the good side of every situation that is what God sees and till you learn to see the good inside you, it would be hard to leave the shadow and step into your light.

You are not everybody. You are different so don’t allow people turn you into something you are not. Don’t lose your uniqueness because of some silly comparisons. It is time to stand up and find out the real you. Don’t settle for less when you can do more. Don’t allow people, situations and even trials to define you. Find your worth so that you don’t live in the shadows of other people.


There is a poem that changed me and I like to share it with you:

“Our Greatest fear”

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us
We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God
Your playing small does not serve the world
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone
And as we let our own light shine
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others”

By Marianne Williamson

You don’t have to be diamond to be special , but If you don’t believe in yourself nobody will. If you don’t see yourself as a champion and a success you are automatically giving people permission to see you as a failure. When you look at yourself in the mirror, you need to see an achiever and a winner!

You are beautiful, you are smart, you are intelligent, you are the best of your kind, you are a champion, and you are talented and blessed with skills, make them count. There is a lot in you that needs to be discovered, dig deep,  but make it fast because the world is waiting to hear you!!!


I believe in you.
Great success awaits you.
God bless you!

Omodara Oluwabunmi Onome