There Was a Time 

There was a time when we hoped, and things came through. 

There was a time when we believed, and miracles happened. 

There was a time when our lovers would go to war, and come back to find us untouched, virgin once more and empty again- beseeching the long gone affection. 

There was a time when poems addressed upon the way of life, and more importantly, defined it. 

There was a time when storytelling was a delightful entertainment, as it sucked up the thrilling moments – pumping the mind to wander across all ages – just to find the seeds of hope, salvation, peace, kindness, and love. 
There were times when we didn’t have to speak, because those close to us, saw what lay in the depths of our hearts. 

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…
“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”
Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…
“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”
The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…
“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.”
Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.

There was a time when knowledge was equally shared. One mind, one soul. 

There was a time when we would cry, and not because we had been hurt or felt any pain, but because we had been selflessly loved. And gained. We would cry tears of joy. 

There was a time when silence meant souls conversing with each other, and minds debating. 

There was a time when leaders were born, and not made from failed heroes. 

There was a time when time was not a tornado or freaky storms, but just dust in the wind.

A man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.
He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”
The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.
Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?
Failure is part of learning; we should never give up the struggle in life.

There was a time when we lived to embrace each other – touch ones soul, quench a neighbour’s thirst, light a friend’s heart, and not economically or politically self adjustably taken to what we found fit for our lonely souls.

There was a time when love was not courtship and marriage. Love was a selfless deed that stood irrespective of the grounds that we stood on; irrespective of the faces that we chose to conjunct with; irrespective of how much we were supposed to give. 

There was a time when relationship wasn’t just an “on and off” thing, but a one way path. Though crooked and harsh, people triumphed to die with their lips saying “i love you” to each other’s soul, as they patiently wait to hold each others hearts once more in the afterlife.

There was a time when paradise wasn’t figuratively spoken, but was lived and seen. It was a wondrous infinity that was witnessed.

There was a farmer who sold a pound of butter to a baker. One day the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting the right amount, which he wasn’t. Angry about this, he took the farmer to court.
The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure to weight the butter. The farmer replied, “Honor, I am primitive. I don’t have a proper measure, but I do have a scale.”
The judge asked, “Then how do you weigh the butter?”
The farmer replied;
“Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker.”
Moral of the story: In life, you get what you give. Don’t try and cheat others.

Many things may have changed but a lot still rests on our choices. We may not be able to control time, trend of new technologies, people’s view about critical issues and what tomorrow will bring but we have power to determine what our response to life should be, our relationship with fellow humans and our God. We can decide to be a better person even in the midst of crumbling moral values. We can chose to see the best in people. We can chose to try again even after a fail. We can chose to tread the right path and not betray trust. We can chose to be selfless in a selfish world. We can always be who we chose to be irrespective of what time it is. There was a time but there is still enough time!

© Basiru Adebayo Emmanuel.

There Was a Time

Posted in Author Omotayo, Relationship

The Only Thing Women Want 

The Only Thing Women Want

Okay, I am sure you are probably saying, “what’s he talking about how can women want just one thing!”. Unfortunately, yes! That’s what I am saying.

Some days back, I was on an ATM queue, when I heard a woman sobbing, she should be in her late 40s, she didn’t look that educated but you would see how much she was trying to hold her pain, as she was trying to explain to her friends why she was so hurt. I moved closer, so I can hear the gist (as a writer I eavesdrop a lot) and here are the key points of what she said…

…whenever he travels he doesn’t buy me things while I see other women show off what their husbands bought them…

…he never shows me he still cares about me, I know he doesn’t have much and the little he has he spends it on us but he feels detached…

…he doesn’t talk to me about anything, he is always tired for everything…

…his responses are always harsh like we are fighting, I just wish things where like they used to be…

Women are so wonderful, unique, smooth, in fact no amount of words could describe their versatility. As Human want is unlimited so is woman want, only woman with limited vision has limited demand. There’s Much to talk about…

-Hon Oloniju Aryortheyjhy Colonial

These got me thinking, if this man spends all he earns on his family and the woman is still not satisfied then what do women really want? So I went straight to google and search ” what women want” and the response I got made me more confused. Some authors came up with 6, some 7, another came up with 10 and a weird one wrote 100 things women want.

Then I remembered the song “my love don’t cost a thing”, is it that most women want everything while few others want nothing? I couldn’t answer that question, so I dropped it and moved to other things until today when it just dawned on me, every woman wants only one thing which they can disguise as everything or nothing and that is attention. (Before you call me a male chauvinist, please here me out)

Omodare….you can never know what you women want…. Even when u have it all, you are never satisfied…. I’m so confused on this cuz they can never be pleased
– Alex Temitope Ayodele

Attention comes in different forms, shapes and sizes, and most times that is where most men get misled to think women are insatiable. Also may be because men are too focused on the physical evidence that they neglect the unspoken words and are misguided to think most women are materialistic, when all they demand is attention.

Some times we think women want shopping just to stack their wardrobe but half of this time all they wanted is attention, to become the cynosure of all eyes. Attention from friends, the boutique’s representatives, but most of all from you their men. Ask any lady, the best part of a shopping spree is to have their husbands/boyfriends there to do the selection. In fact, most women will argue that they don’t dress for a man or men and that to a large extent is true because they dress for attention depending on the kind of attention they crave for at that moment. She just wants the attention!

A woman wants to be loved and appreciated. She’s an emotional being so she expects everyone to see things from an own point of view, she wants to be listened to, she wants respect. She will appreciate gift but she wants more. She wants to be treated as a special person.
– Omodara Onome

I have heard guys say their women nag but here is the fact, she just wants your attention. She wants to be heard, listened to and treated as a partner in the relationship. She wants you to have time for her, she doesn’t want to be second to your job, the children, your friends or your religion, she wants to be second to none. Unfortunately, men treat life as conquest, surmount one and move to another, shifting all attentions to what is new. Of course she will nag, she wants to be seen and treated as new everyday!

People have said a woman boss is always too bossy that women love power. In all honesty, everyone loves power, male or female but the question is, “what is the motive behind that love for power?” Men love power so they can rule, gather wealth and some times oppress but for women it is different, she wants power so she can command attention. When a lady boss walks in she wants you to know she is the boss (trust me on this, I have worked with many boss ladies), she wants the attention especially if there is another lady around, she wants everyone including that lady to know she gets all the attention.

She wants love ,care,respect and forgiveness. Fidelity, Attention…. listening ear and FINANCIAL SECURITY….above all…a faithful man.

– Raymond Glory

Men are moved by what they see; a sexy body, a beautiful face structure, a pretty smile, to die for attitude and so on, basically men are a typical example of seeing is believing but women are opposite, women are moved by what they hear, it is an evidence they have your thought attention and trust me they know when you are saying it like you mean it. It is not all about being emotional (it counts though) but it is more about what you confess, women want to hear it, day and night. If you love her then you cannot be tired of saying it and even when she wrongs you, she still doesn’t want you to take the attention off her.

No one has the ability to give women what they want, their want can’t be met. Due to individual differentiation we could say, some want love and care blah blah, while some want money and prioritise their career. The truth be told, there are some secret want which women can’t openly disclose they only fantasize about it. So to cut the long story short they have few want that we can only try to meet them. Wish I could explain more But Selah, I ain’t a fan of typing….

-Taiwo Afeez Fehintola

When a lady says I don’t want anything, trust me that ‘anything’ doesn’t include attention. In truth, the fact is, saying she wants nothing is expected to make men curious and inevitably kick start the attention process. Men will want to find out more about her. Who is she? Is she still single? And with men curiosity rather affection would often lead them to the doorstep of a lady.

To a lady, attention beats any other thing men have to offer. Ever wondered why a lady married a rich business man still ends up in the bed of an hustler? It is simply because the rich man is too busy chasing money that he thinks money can replace giving his lady attention (Remember the movie “unfaithful” by Richard Gere, it wasn’t about the sexual desires of the woman but the passion and attention in every contact).

We all know what a man wants according to Rev (Mrs.) Funke Felix-Adejumo ‘A man’s greatest need is respect, not sex or food’. In the same context, “A woman’s greatest need is attention, not sex or money”.

We can paint it however we like it, use big English and even vague words, say it is nothing or it is everything but the word we are all looking for is ATTENTION. Give your woman more attention and see what difference it will bring to your relationship, it is worth the try!

Thanks to all contributors as quoted, you guys are amazing. And to you reading this, I am sure most won’t agree with this view especially based on their own experience, so feel free to share your reservations in the comment section and trust me to reply your constructive counter argument. Cheers!

Posted in Author Omotayo, Digest

Know When To Let Go

Know When to Let Go

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On your journey to achieving your dreams, you have to know when to empty your sac, when to fill up and when to keep it light. Sometimes we are too attached to our past that we don’t know, when it is time to move on. Picture an adult still walking around with a doll his parents got him when he was just 5years, unimaginable right? But the truth is that is what most of us do. We hold on to things of the past like relationship, events, words, believes, ideas, grief, loss and so on, we get too attached that we don’t realize, it is time to let it go, like the man still holding on to his old doll.

If it is not adding value to you, then letting go is not an option, it is a necessity. Don’t ruin your future by holding on to old and redundant beliefs, life styles, relationships, ideas, doctrines, people, emotions etc. There is a bright future ahead of you and you can always start with a clean slate any time. There is a whole lot you can do for yourself, if you are willing to let go of those things holding you back. No matter how great the past was, the future can always surpass it but you have to give the future a chance and trust that your best is still ahead.
                          
Make no mistake, letting go is not the same as giving up… You let go of something in your past because you are on to something better in your future.

Posted in Author Fabiola iconxpression, Poems for Thought

THE MEEM BELIEVE

THE MEEM BELIEVE

I believe we are meant to be.
And I trust in my believe.
Trust in war’s not we need.
For our survival to be.

We conceive to be deceased.
We can give and still receive.
We don’t really have to grieve.
If life’s well spent with relief.

Give me that time oh, time oh.
Show me the care eh, care eh.
Treat me with love oh, love oh.
Afford me some trust eh, trust eh.

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Picture source: GTBank

From the pictures that we see.
From the face of families.
We can find an inner peace.
Become whole from being pieces.

In the glowing of your skin.
From the scenery on your screen.
In the swaying of the tree.
We see the need to be free.

Give me that time oh, time oh.
Show me the care eh, care eh.
Treat me with love oh, love oh.
Afford me some trust eh, trust eh.

By Aremu Ibraheem Adebayo
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Posted in Digest, Inspirational Stories, Motivational

THE STORY OF A WOOD CUTTER

THE STORY OF A WOOD CUTTER

Once upon a time, a very strong woodcutter asked for a job in a timber merchant and he got it.

The pay was really good and so was the work condition. For those reasons, the woodcutter was determined to do his best. His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he supposed to work. The first day, the woodcutter brought 18 trees.

“Congratulations,” the boss said. “Go on that way!

”Very motivated by the boss words, the woodcutter tried harder the next day, but he could only bring 15 trees.

The third day he tried even harder, but he could only bring 10 trees.

Day after day he was bringing less and less trees.

“I must be losing my strength”, the woodcutter thought.

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He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on.

“When was the last time you sharpened your axe?” the boss asked.

“Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees…”

Reflection:
Our lives are like that. We sometimes get so busy that we don’t take time to sharpen the “axe”.

In today’s world, it seems that everyone is busier than ever, but less happy than ever.

Why is that?
Could it be that we have forgotten how to stay “sharp”?

There’s nothing wrong with activity and hard work but we should not get so busy that we neglect the truly important things in life, like our personal lives, taking time to get close to our Creator(PRAY), giving more time to our family, taking time to read etc.

We all need time
💥to relax,
💥to think and meditate,
💥to learn and grow.

If we don’t take the time to sharpen the “axe”, we will become dull and lose our effectiveness.
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If you love your friends as I have loved you today, then SHARE, MOTIVATE and teach them a morals

l lesson.

Cheers!!!!

Author: Stephen Covey
From: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
First shared by Selah on Selah Someonetotalkto

Posted in Author Onome, Digest, Motivational

Value of Time

Value of Time

I know you have big dreams and sometimes it looks as if they will not to come to pass, I understand this feeling too but I want to ask you, “what are you doing with the gift of time you’ve been given?” You need to give yourself time by being diligent, you don’t have to rush things, yet you have to understand that every second counts. If you manifest before your actual time I’m afraid you might soon be forgotten and if you manifest too late you might never reach self-actualization before your time passes. How you value and use your time will greatly determine when and how your manifestation will be. You need to invest your time in productive things, plan your dreams, set goals, be determined and be consistently persistent.

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Every man who has a dream will pass through two phases;
The NURTURING PHASE: this is the phase where you start nursing your dreams. This is where you have to get creative, imagining where you want be and how you can get there. You pen down all you need, to achieve your desired dream; the qualifications, the certifications, the experience, the set of people you have to relate with and the kind of places you have to be. Your resolve will be tested, your competence will be challenge and there will be difficulties. At this phase, you need mentor(s), people who can guide you and help you form. People who can curb your excesses, manage your youthful exorbitance and prune you to the right shape. Time is very valuable at this phase, if you don’t get all that is required of you to fulfill your dream in the shortest time possible, it will delay you from reaching the next stage.

The MANIFESTATION PHASE: this phase comes when your good dream starts to manifest. At this point, you must have acted on all you have planned, you would have failed a couple of times, but eventually you will start to get it right. Then people starts to celebrate you, recognise you and recommend you. This stage is where you stare at success, hold it in your hands and keep watch so that it doesn’t consume you. Life gets a little complex, decisions have to be made within the shortest time possible and there will be pressure from all angles. Time seems so inadequate, you want more than 24hours in a day and then you have to be in more than one place at a time.

There is something between the Nurturing and manifestation phase and that is “TIME”. The obvious truth is that your dreams will not come to pass in one day, like all good things, it takes time. One great investment God gave every human being equally is time, it is how productive your time is that determines how and when your manifestation will take place.  A lot of people spend their own time complaining, worrying and wallowing in self-pity,  all these are rocking chairs they don’t take people anywhere. Your time has to be invested productively and just because you failed the first time you attempted something does not mean you are a failure, you need to try again but this time smartly.

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God is not a magician but a miracle worker, He doesn’t bless empty hands. He blesses the works of our hands and products of our labour. So stop being so lazy, you need to wake up and invest your time in something productive. Every great man is a good investor of time; Sportsmen spend time training, Artist spend lots of time rehearsing most times doing same thing over and over again, Entrepreneurs keep brainstorming to find new businesses to go into, inventors keep wondering what other problems can be solved profitably while other professionals invest quality time in research all in a bid to improving themselves… Successful people are never lazy because they understand the value of time.

It was Malcolm Gladwell who said in his book Outliers that “there are no geniuses, the world is filled with men who have dedicated their time in hours of practice to be a better person”. When you do same thing over and over again, you become a master or specialist at that thing. You have all it takes to succeed, stop complaining and start working.

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Charles Darwin said “A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of time” you need to stop wasting your time and energy on irrelevant things, you need to get up and pursue your dreams. Your good dreams will definitely come to pass, it doesn’t matter how many times you have failed, you should always be on your toes and keep moving forward. It’s not time to cry or complain, it’s time to move on and get value for every second you have got. You are a success don’t settle for less!

I believe in you!

Omodara Oluwabunmi Onome

Posted in Author Omotayo, Digest, Motivational

Your Time is Your Life

Your Time is Your Life

Time, not money, is your biggest asset in life. You need time to invest in relationships (with yourself and your family) or to chase your passion.
“Think again” if you are still trading off time for money. Let your money work for you. You don’t work for money. That is exactly what Financial Freedom is… – Manoj Arora , From the Rat Race to Financial Freedom

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There are 24hours in a day but you can have more than 24 productive hours in a day. There is a difference between normal hours and productive hours. One day in productive sense, is equal to the number of hours you make use of that actually impact on your life before dusk turns to dawn. The rich understands that Time is their most valuable asset and what they do is to hire more hands (that’s buy more time) to get the most from a day. The cheapest form of this can be seen in networking and marketing.

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Take for instance, a man who sleeps for 10hours, eats and have fun for another 10hours then uses only 4hours for something productive, that means in a 24hour-day he only gets 4 productive hours. On the other hand, a young entrepreneur, sleeps for 6hours, eats and have fun for another 6hours, works for 12hours, then hires 4men who also work 9hours for him, effectively he will be having 48 productive hours in a single day. Now you understand why the first man is barely getting-by and the second man is living large.

Some have mastered the use of time that they actually make money per second. Mike Adenuga gets money for every second you spend on a Glo line, that’s your time working for him. For every minute you spend on Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg gets an alert, your idle time working for him. For every hour spent at a football viewing center, the viewing center guy is counting cash, your time making him rich. If you are employed, your employer hires you first to add your time to his time, then maybe for your skills to make you efficient. Your employer can’t be everywhere at the same time hence because of this limitation, he puts a value on your time and buys it off you. Don’t get me wrong, it is nice to have fun, get employed but it is also fair that you understand that your time is precious and more valuable than you know.

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The value of time is best appreciated if you put it to use. Better put, the worth attached to time depends on how one translates every second to money (earning ability). The truth is, no employer will pay you the true worth of your time, no matter the value placed on it, your time is still a part of your life that you can never get back. This is why it is saddens me, when I sees able bodied young men waste away their time.  Some go as far as asking other friends, “what can I (we) do to kill this (time) number of hours?”, they conveniently murder part of their lives.

Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of. One man gets only a week’s value out of a year while another man gets a full year’s value out of a week. – Charles Richards

Your time is your life, don’t waste it. Your time is your greatest resource and most undervalued asset, be careful the price tag you put on it. Don’t waste your time on unproductive ventures, rather see how you can increase the number of productive hours you have in a day. Put your hours to use, invest money in them and let them work for you. Even if you have to offer your service to someone who can afford them, make sure you buy others’ time that you can afford and let them work for you too, that way you end up with more. Every tick of the clock, that’s a part of you ticking by, never let it go to waste.

For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again. – Eric Roth , The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay

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Posted in Motivational

Some Things Take Time

Healing takes time, change takes time and miracle is a process. We often are in so much hurry that we miss the good all together. We want a decadence and pain of many years reversed in a moment but too often things don’t work like that.

A lady shared her experience and I think it is relevant to my motivational words for you today. She said one day she was rushing home from work apparently to fix dinner. As she swung the door, it smashed into her little boy’s face and the boy in agonizing pain burst into tears.  She apologized but the boy won’t stop screaming then she got angry and demanded the boy stop crying at once after all what was he doing behind the door and moreover she had apologized. Then the boy replied, “mum because you said sorry doesn’t make it less painful and because I was wrong standing behind the door doesn’t make it right for you to swing the door so hard without caution. I know you are sorry and I understand but some things take time” At the point the mother just stood up, dumbfounded, remorseful and truly sorry,  and she hugged her little boy so tight.

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Too often we expect our being sorry to heal the broken heart, the physical hurt, the broken promises, the betrayal, the lack of trust, the lack of understanding, the taking for granted and so on but in reality being sorry doesn’t make it less painful. Healing takes time so also mending of broken fences and rebuilding of life. A wrong of many years can’t be fixed by the snapping of fingers just because we have realized the things we have done wrong. Change takes time.

When we pick up our lives and hand it over to God, things definitely change for the better but most people expect magic rather than miracle. It is true you have repented, changed your ways but that doesn’t make things you did in your past right and because you didn’t know what you were doing then doesn’t make them less evil. Yes, all things have become new but healing takes time.

I want you to take a break, stop trying too hard, let the process run its course. I understand your life needs to be at the next level but it is neither something you can rush. Your life is like the little boy, it is hurt and you, like the woman, are trying to make things right but then like the little boy needs time to get over the pain,  your life needs time to fall back on the right track and for this to happen,  you need to embrace your life and give it time to heal.  So also in dealing with people you have hurt, you need to give them time to rehabilitate.

Remember, great things take time, the question is, “Are you ready to wait?”